So here goes the story:
met her in jan, went clubbing kissed came home, freaked. She told me not to tell anyone and we both took it as nothing much since we were both pretty shit faced. through out the next couple of months i invite her out she comes but always asks if she could bring her best friend along.. i go along with it and say its coo. Obviously i cant game or give attention to her friend because .. well.. shes 'special' . anyways, 2 dates ago i make the biggest mistake and ask her out. she didnt say no, she said something along the lines of oh you're too player for me, im not over my ex blah blah.

she was really worried i would cut all ties with her so she asked me not to, but i told her no guarentees. a couple hang outs later, then this last week i ask her to go bar hopping with me and some friends. we go get wasted, and throughout the night we hold hands kiss hug and whatever. come time to drop her off i do, i ask if i could stay over, she said only if i dont reveal this night to anyone. we stay over making out on the bed then she asks me if i still like her. obviously my scrub ass said yes she then continues about the whole oh we're different you're too player etc etc. despite that i push her lmr and we do the business. we cuddle and kiss throughout the night. come next morning i leave early giving her a long kiss.

not sure where i stand from here or what else i could do.
my goals is obviously a relationship but give me some pointers. i know i probably messed up bad so dont tell me the obvious. i want to know how i can move foward or where i stand at least.

always keep her at a limbo. Seems like she will eventually push for the relationship because she is adopting the chase frame. Keep doing what you are doing. You do not need any further help from us.


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thanks for your reply sir
one thing that worries me is
she comes out sometimes, then other times she doesnt and says shes busy others its like a 5050
pretty much shes hot and cold sometimes . very hard to read
shes really passive and i feel like she wants to try this kinda slow..
any suggestions other suggestions will be greatly appreciated

This and be patient don't get to beta always seeking her attention

thanks for the reply guys.

thing is, i feel i messed up my frame by letting her know i like her she didnt even say yes just excuses to why we woulnt work.
and we both know im more committed in this than she is.
anyway to fix that?

since that 'night' i asked her to come over and watch a movie.. and she said she had plans that night iwth another fd already and said sorry.
also, she knows i have a lot of social value with girls if anything shes scared that i have too much.. haha


more help is appreciated <3

Easy solution.

"Sure I guess I still like you. But you're right, we'll never work out, and we'll never be in a relationship, and I'm at peace with that. Deep down perhaps I'd want a relationship with you, but since it won't work out you need to understand if I put my priorities elsewhere."

That needs to be your position forever, right until she tells you she wants to be with you. Never slip up and never tell her how much you like her, or how much you want to be with her. The speech is to be delivered with a cold and aloof tone. Your speech needs to be believable. She will become scared and insecure. She won't want to lose you to another girl. Guaranteed she'll come running to you. And in the mean time, game other girls of course.

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gonna have to wait till the next time we bring it up right?
since last time , i spiked the attraction, cant decided to freeze for a while now or what

Yep, but wait for HER to bring it up. If you want to forward to that discussion, you might wanna act a bit cold/distant.

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