Hey guys I need some help.

Here is my situation, I met this girl at a party and long story short things got to the point where we exchanged numbers had a good time etc. After a few weeks of talking she had been going through all sorts of issues with her ex boyfriend and she had ended things for what seemed to be forever. After that night where she ended it with him I went to her house and things got physical fast, I didnt seal the deal as she stopped me for some sort of self respect reasons etc.

My problem is this after a couple more weeks of talking and us being physical with kissing. She suddenly said she didnt want us to do that right now because she was overwhelmed with it because her breakup was pretty rough. She said she would tell me when shes ready to be physical and i just said lets be friends for now without the intimacy. I did that on purpose btw I didnt feel like saying its either physical or im gone i felt i was in a better position this way.

My question is how do i start to escalate things again, she doesn't feel comfortable with intimate situations like her at my house alone but going for coffee or movies is okay. We talk regularly i try to avoid ex talk as much as possible. Where do i take the conversations over text? how often do i text her? and how often do i make plans with her? Need some help here guys!

Number one mistake was actually being friends with her after she backed away. It's okay and maybe even a good move to act nonchalant, saying friends was cool, but you can't actually be friends if you want something more. I would have done two things which maybe you still can do.

1) Back off on the texting, phone calls, hanging out etc. You are essentially still her replacement BF with no benefit. She is using you. Obviously don't completely stop them but limit them. Take a while to respond to texts. Don't always pick up her phone calls. Be the first to get off the phone.

2) Now I'm not saying don't hang out with her. Just don't do it alone until you are out of the friend zone. What you should do is hang out with her in group situations. Ideally at a bar/party etc. Bring a girl if possible or group of girls that you can flirt with and preferably kiss close in front of her. And guess what she will automatically DHV for you with the others girls. Win - Win.

By pulling back (#1) and DHV (#2) you may to be able to gain her interest again. She obviously is attracted to you since you already kiss closed and she likes your personality since you hang out. When she realizes that you won't wait for her and other girls want you she'll probably change her mind. Again this depends on how deep in the friend zone you are and how long this has been going on.

Hope this helped. Let me know what you decide to do and how it pans out.

He pretty much summed it up. The big thing is make her WANT you and don't be so available game many other girls so this chick will see that you aren't her only option.

after you disappear because you have been gaming other girls, come back a sexual threat.


She will accept this frame and you will be out of the friend-zone.


Mr. A

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