In fact, I kissed most of the girls I met on first day or the very first 2 hours. I f-closed most of my online date on first day 60% of the time, but keep in mind I use online dating just for sex, so my game was a bit different and involved lot of escalation comparing to someone who games for dating or relationship.
1) How do I screen her?
- You can use qualify question. I advise to avoid interview and questions that put her into autopilot mode. Check out Kezia Noble Deep Connection. She has some good insights about how to engage women's emotion and create deep connection with them during conversation. As for me, there are 3 questions I always use to qualify girl.
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Tell me 3 fun facts about yourself - This lightens the date and get rid of most pressure she could have before the day since now she's opening up and talking about her silly experiences. We laugh it off as I share mine. Once she relaxes, it is much easier to create attraction and escalate.
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What is your best trait and worst flaw? - It qualifies her and show her that I'm still deciding, she will need to win me over first.
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What is the most adventurous thing you have done? - I always use this one to lead her into the sexual conversation.
2) As soon as I meet her, are you saying I should hug her n say she smells good?
- I encourage the hug. It always works in your favor. It shows her you're confident with meeting new people and can lead. It eases her up and you get the kino in right away. Most AFC wouldn't dare and just do awkward handshake. About the smelling part, it depends on your personality and frame. I'm always such a flirt and sexually, with such vibe, it's normal for me to do those stuffs. I like to do that from the start because I want to suck her into my sexual frame. Later on I can just use that in my advantage, like going for another hug or kiss her, then start sniffing her hair and kissing her neck which usually turns them on. Sometimes I'd just grab her ass out of the blue and say "I was just wondering if your ass was cute enough for my favorite position
". But that's my vibe, fun and sexual. Of course, such frame would not work for someone who is timid and very mature. You should find a vibe what works best for you.
3) Which routines would you suggest I try
- I'm not a big fan of canned routine. It's more important to learn to listen and ask follow up questions to engage her emotions. Again check out Kezia. For EX: If she talks about her passion or work, ask about what she does at work, how does it make her feel, why does she pick such a career or passion, her most sensual experiences with it, etc... All those recall her positive feeling, which is good. I also use some kokology and the cube ones which is a good start to get to know her.
4) Finally, how do I get out of paying for her food? My idea was, "So I just wanted to let you know, that I don't really buy girl's food/drinks from the start, it just shows me that the other person is mature and can depend on themselves - so I hope you can be cool with that."
- I like to keep talking and having fun after they bring out the check. If she reaches for it or make suggestion of splitting it, I'd mention that I like that she tried and pay for it because she shows me some quality I like. If she doesn't and expect me to pay, I would just tell them to split the check. If you act like it something normal, then it's something normal. Like you always have it done that way. You don't have to explain or qualifying yourself to her. She won't say a thing. If she does, now you can tell her your reason.
And I wouldn't go in a date worrying about a kiss. Sometimes I don't kiss the girl at all but f-closed her the next day. Just keep the mindset I told you and if she's fun to be with, focus on just having fun. Don't worry about if she wants a kiss or not. When you want to kiss her, just do it.
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