This girl and I Hooked up every day for the last week. Last night she brought up her exes and how they hurt her, then got angry at me thinking I never wanted her to hang out with them again. Which is not the case I just said that it may be a bad idea. She was angry so I showed some vulnerability by sharing personal Struggles in relationships I faced (in retrospect, I do not know why I randomly opened up to her).

She comforted me, and then told me under her breath not to trust in her. That night she was distant, as well as in the morning. Although she kissed me several times before leaving , we did not make plans like we normally do, to see each other again.

At this point I am concerned that I made a mistake either not confronting the ex-boyfriend issue, opening up or not securing another get together.

She left an hour ago how can I rectify the situation?
Should I wait for her to contact me again Or should I contact her?

And some background information is that we were both drunk last night.

Sorry if this sounds Very adolescent but trying to get back into relationships. I know My Game is week right now. Single and alone for the last year.

depends what do you want to do? She sounds like you could fuck with her and do what you want. or you could try to save her? I would not. She doesn't sound like she wants to take any responsibility and just likes to transfer all blame to ex's. I would just fuck with her break her self ahsteam and make a slam doll out of her. But I got no reserves about hell so I'm ok with being on a list of exes till some afc wants to wast his time energy and $.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

Hay Chinopants, I'm not good at playing the saving game seems to push girls away, but I would like this girl to stay around and continue stopping bye.

Cant stand when girls are distant like she was this morning and last night makes me feel disparate. Because of this distance that she had I'm concerned that she may now push me away. Do not know what actions I should take today or tomarow such as whether or not to wait for here to contact me, text her or what to do to keep the interest alive.

More background: She randomly tells me all here EX have cheated on here. I do have this other girl that wont's to hang also.

How long ago was her last relationship? recent? and how did it end?

Sounds to me like she has feeling for you but perhaps she has a lot personal issues she needs to work out! maybe shes not over her ex, perhaps she has emotional issues from childhood, the fact that she said under her breath that she can't be trusted is something to be concerned about! What her history cheating? what her history with her ex's? What her history with her parents? divorced? does she have daddy issues? ect ect...these are all things you want to think about before getting serious with a girl like this!

What she is telling you doesn't add up...you need to figure out the real reason she is acting the way she is.

This reeks of my last girlfriend. All the ex-boyfriends were assholes, life has been really hard on her, emotionally distant sometimes for no apparent reason, has this "I need saving" aura to her... dark one gave you a lot of good questions to ask. Also, did I read correctly that she's still hanging out with all of them? And tells you not to trust her? Smells like a serial CHEAT. DO NOT COMMIT.

From what I've read, my opinion is you're got a high probability of crazy in this one. Hooked up every day for the past week, huh? She seem to get attached pretty quick, didn't she? Really interested in everything you say and do? Awesome in bed?

Either way, no matter what it SEEMS like she's feeling, keep her at arms length. For your own mental health, because she's likely got issues man. These types make great FWBs, but don't ever make the mistake of falling (esp too easy, and they make it easy) for them, and thinking you can "save them"... because you, like the last several dudes could not. If you date her, eventually YOU will become the "psycho ex boyfriend #4" because ask yourself - if these guys were really crazy, who do you think drove them to it, hm?

Don't try to rectify the situation, you did nothing wrong. Let her contact you. Be non-reactive and change the topic when she mentions ex's. She's probably going to open up to you a lot, and fast, to get you to see her as a victim, and open up to her. Don't reciprocate that openness... reveal yourself to her the same rate as you would anyone else.

Now, I'm not saying my ex is just like your girl, but I can already see similarities. Often comes from childhood difficulties, emotional abuse and trauma, etc. Do yourself a favor and read through my "Is her friend / ex lover trying to AMOG me?" topic, as it details the arduous process I went through with falling for someone toxic, and trying to get rid of her. Now that I have, I'm already perking up, though I constantly still think about her although I don't want to BE with her. I'd just hate to see a fellow forum member travel this path if they don't have to. Keep us all posted on here, man.

This is not a quality girl. Downgrade her to a FWB or fuck buddy. She will emotionally sap the energy out of you and she already gave you hints on what she is like. Red flags have been thrown and you have been warned. Next time, DON'T open up to her about your past relationship problems. Just acknowledge her drama/history and change the subject.

I remember handling a girl like this and it was more trouble than it was worth. Granted, she had the tightest body and gave good head...but still, don't let the pussy dictate your actions. Also, don't become her therapist.

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Man, reminds me when I met my ex... I should have been all up on PUA "GF Material or not" cause man I was blind as hell back then.

Sincerely, take the advice her, FB or nothing. At least you got more Red Flags than some...

My ex told me all her ex's cheating, she told me they were all assholes, this should have been a red flag...it was something I ignored, ignorance is bliss for a little while. The thing is she neglected to tell me that she also cheated and from what I experienced in our relationship I would imagine she was not the greatest gf either (there are always two sides to every story).

As an adult part of making mistakes it learning from them and fixing your self so not to repeating the mistakes from the past. If a girl had a history of terrible relationship it is a sign that she is not able to change or does not want to...its easy to play victim but as an adult you have two choices, fix the problems or do the same thing over and over and get the same results.

Now I don't know this girl and I'm sure she is a nice girl, but my guess is she is playing the damsel in distress card and refuses to take responsibility for her faults. This girl sounds damaged and remember you can't change someone! It not your job to play psychiatrist, its not your job to fix her.

Here last hook up/relationship was 8 moths ago and it ended "braking ashtray on her head" she later told me it was more of an accident as it was in some clothing that he threw at her. This is the one that is now in jail.
I grew up with her brother, which passed away two years ago. She lost her brother, I lost a friend.
No idea definitely something I should find out.
Her parents spoiled her.
No as she is yonger and I'm 10 yesrs old
She speaks with them about me as they are still friends and talk. One is in jail that has done her tattoos and "will continue to do her tattoos" so they do not hang out.
She has always been attracted to me as I grew up with her brother, but I barely remember her.
No actually she is more critical of me pointing out flaws I have.
Not necessarily, but she does have a hot body and she is submissive.

Yes, absolutely. In fact this is something I completely understand.

I took the last year to straighten everything out my life and now I'm trying to make the right choices when it comes to adding relationships and dating back in. In fact, this is what stands out to me in this girl. All of my exes have chased/chose me and they have turned out to be all bad. This girl I chose her, and although ther are some similarities for the most part she's different.

Don't know if she's changing are not changing her behaviors by being with me. As we know that the image that she paints, perhaps can be misleading.

She told you not to trust her. Can you ask for a bigger red flag?

Clearly she has a fuck ton of issues. The first thing you need to keep in mind is that you can't change that, and there's nothing you can do to reassure her that you'd be a good boyfriend. So save yourself and run while you can. Or at the very least, do not pursue her. Do not chase her. Make her come to you.

And as with every case of oneitis, go out sarging to get over her, or to at least have a backup plan.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

I do not feel as if she is looking for a psychologist in me. As you can see she blows up at me when I knowledge or give insight on her exes, but being baby by her parents I can expect she's looking for someone to take care of her (but not financially). I feel as if she's trying to le me know she communicates with them, and leverages abuse and drama to convince me that she would never go back to them, although they want her.

Yes, I completely understand and I'm not look to change anything thing but my history of relationships. You say to go out and continue searching to get over here, but that's actually why I started chasing here as I have this other girl that was attempting to seduces me.

So I do have a back up plan that I actually hung out with last night as I was Waiting to hear from the girl wiith the Exes. This backup girl contacted me to hang out when she heard that I was with another girl. This backup girl telling me to finger things out with this girl with the exes.

My pattern of relationships is the past:
She seduces me> I become attached> I chase her = bad relationships as they had in control.

I'm attempting to reverse my own pattern giving me control over my relationships.

The new pattern.
I seduced her> building her attachment> she chases me = I'm in control good relationships

So I don't necessarily know all of the right moves as these are all new experiences and a new path for me. Which is why I seek and appreciative of help from you and other members.