i do some online dating. met this real cuttie on pof. scored her number. texted alot for like three days. rules i broke: text were always longer than hers, didn't take as long as she did to text back, and first text of the day were not good. that last one is what caused me to almost lose her. i went all day to see if she would be the first to text back. didn't happen:( so i text her saying "hey kianna!"if you didn't know, never have an opener like that. think of how many people are texting her saying "hey whats up" or "what up kianna." she didn't text back. so i stuck to the rule of waiting five days to text her. i did the smart thing by coming up with something funny and creative. thought of a topic we have discussed before(she believes in aliens lol) and made up some story. "hey, i had the craziest dream that i was abducted by aliens and you were there!" it worked:) got her going again. i am now keeping my text short and to the point and i take as long as she does to text. so.... i would like some pointers on what else i can do to make my text game even better! any pointers from experienced pua's? would like to get the attraction up some more!! thanks

wait are you going to meet up with this girl or what?

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Well here how it went. When we were first texting for a few days, we brought up the subject ice skating. So I eventually said lets go next Saturday. She replied " I think we should talk more." I said "ooh playing hard to get" she said "I think u can handle the challenge;)" I said "I like a challenge;)" so on and so on. Next day I text her with a lame text of "hey kianna!" No text back. Waited five days then text her saying I had a dream about her. Yesterday she was the first to text me. So I got it going with her again. What other things should I do to increase the attraction?

Maybe you need more comfort, not attraction. (also if your using a lot of game with her,she might think your a player)

Think of it from her point of view.

You are someone she has only chatted with online and via text messages. She doesn't know if your 20, or 60 years old. In her eyes you could possibly be a rapist or a murderer.
It can be very scary for a girl to go out on a day two (Especially when they have never met you before)


Also the ";)" implies sex, and that puts even more pressure on a girl to meet up. It makes her feel like you EXPECT sex, and 9/10 girls need justification to have sex with someone, or else they just feel like a slut.

You get what i mean?

Just text her, and try not to bring up sex or hanging out. Just get to know her. After some time tell her that your about to go do something in a public place and ask her to join you.
EX
"Hey my Friends and I are going to go play some flag football tomorrow, we have 1 girl wanting to play, so we need another to make it even. You should join!"

I hope this helps!

-AFCME

Is she attracted to you? Did she give very decent IOIs? If the answer is no, then no kidding she won't go out with you... Afterall, she has tons of options on POF. Plus, a lot of the girls on POF are just in it for the attention.

Start being more flirtacious and talking about sex. Then gauge her interest. Also, you shouldn't have said "playing hard to get?" Now you've acknowledged she's hard to get. You're the one who should be playing that game.

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Yes she has given me lots of ioi's. We talk about things we both love. She gives me a lot of smiley faces and winks. I think where I screwed up is when we first started texting before I asked her out. A lot of my text were longer than hers, and I woulf alway s text back right away. Now I am the opposite of that.