| Thanks for the posts guys, appreciate the help. I'll befriend him to see if that would diffuse the cockblocking tendencies to some extent. Before I posted, I was thinking of just changing venues to avoid this guy, but with that strategy, I'll learn nothing new. I think following the input here will give me an insight on handling similar situations too, which can occur outside pickup as well.
This dude has been cockblocking me the last couple of times I went to this venue. But last night when this happened again, it kind of pissed me off, as one of the girls I was talking to is a solid HB8 with a good background and a potential for more than just a hookup. In retrospect, had that not happened, I wouldn't have posted, and would not see the new approach which seems more solid. So something good did come out of it.
The insight about asking relevant questions to the cockblock was also an eyeopener for me:
There is this girl who is a professor in management that I dance with, an HB6. She acts excessively needy and somewhat desperate, and is also married, and I do not like dancing with her, to be honest.
She is a different variation of a cockblock. So Whenever I am talking to an HB and she is around, she'll come barging in and act very interested and ask me dance-relevant questions that's just impolite to ignore. I'll start to answer, and then, I only realized this the last time, that she leads me away from this HB I was talking to, either with body language or by asking for a dance, which is impolite to refuse in front of the HB of interest. Soon, the HB feels ignored, and leaves.
So, shes been trying similar shit on me. Being in Management, I think she is well aware of these skills she can use to manipulate interactions. Anyways, I stopped talking and dancing with her a couple of weeks back, so that should be the end of it. But other suggestions to deal with this girl are welcome, as I'll continue to see her at the same venue, unfortunately.
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