I got the Game book and have been reading it past week. As I cannot define myself as pic up artist I have found that I use quite much same techniques when talking with girls.
And one of my unwritten rule is that if I meet with a girl in bar/lounge/nightclub I dont buy her drinks. Yeah I have done that when I am really depressed and drunk myself but usually in these situations girls are saying no before I even can ask.

Now I have question. Lets say I met a girl in small privat party and later people started moving to the city. I had idea not to go because I didnt like the place where most of the people were heading. There was also one girl who I knew before litlebit who didnt like this place so much. It is not clear how we ended up going to other place - I mean I didnt ask her neither did she ask me but somehow during our conversation we found out that it is cool to go somewhere. One of my and her friend came also with us.

In bar I bought her drinks. She didnt ask.

My idea is not to get this girl to my bed. She has shown all kind of IOL-s etc. So this is not a problem. Something more serious would be beautyful.

So did I do wrong that I payd for her? If we go somewhere next time what should I do. Because now I think that she probably expects that if I ask her I pay.
I am quite sure that I have much more money then she has and paying is not a problem I am only afraid that she doesnt respect me and can take this as a free way to party.

I usually solve this by saying:"Whos turn is for buying?" when the bill comes.
It sets the "paying" frame to 50/50, and she will probably offer to pay. You might throw in "I bought it last time, right?" immediatly after first question, just to be sure.

I'd say it's good that she pays, if not 50/50 at least from time to time. And it's not about money, but you already know that. If i know she doesn't have money, i'd pay alot more frequent than usual, but again, from time to time i'd give her a "hard time"- such as waiting for her to open up the wallet and take the money out, and only than i'd say "I'm paying." Make her know you're not a free drink bar, but do that in a funny way.

Thanks, I try to continue this way that I dont buy her off with my money.

But what is community rule about gifts, flowers?
In book I read that one trick is to give some cheap neckless or ring and to say that I want it back next time.

I again have almost always had something with me when I meet with girls.
Common things, flowers, some good chocolate, cake and wine - this kind of old scool romantic thing.

This is my philosophy on buying drinks for a girl in a bar.

Lets say I approach a chick, we have known each other for 5 mins, she asks, I pretty much say fuck you, I am not paying for that, how about you buy me a drink first, then we'll get to know each other.

However, if I am in set with a girl, we're rapporting fairly well, been hu here and there, and I see her drink is empty, or close to it, my drink (if I am drinking -usually no) is obviously empty at this point as well, so then I ask, what were you drinking?

At this point, I am not getting her a drink because I want to get in her pants, I am buying her a drink simply because we're having a good time, her pussy drink is empty, and we have built a connection, so therefore I can/will.

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Thanks for the reply.
Yeah, this totaly makes sense not to but drinks to girls in set.

But my question is maybe not really in topic but:
I mean if I want to make things more serious with girl is it bad if I pay for things when we go out.
Is it ok to take them flowers and wine etc? I think that I should always pay if I ask her to some concert or dinner.
Does this old fashion romantic and polite thing make me more boring?

Do you mean like a long-term relationship you buy some stuff, is that really a bloody question.

Fuck sakes, if your thinking about dating, and its a day two and you feel like buying her fucking roses be a man and buy her roses, if you have to think about it bro then you are not fucking congruent and confident with yourself.

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html

But what is community rule about gifts, flowers?

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Lets say I approach a chick, we have known each other for 5 mins, she asks,

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