Met girl, talked for 5 months, became good friends could talk for hours and hours. got along great. Than when I finally approach the fact I want a relationship she goes I dont feel you that way, there is no sparks or butterflies. I just want to be friends.

Other details: she came out from recent break up, Im a different race than her, stopped calling me after I pushed the I like you a lot line.

Over? what can I do to make her come back, I still have a lot of feelings for her, she played me, she use to say things like im her angel, shes so happy she found me, etc. etc. Nothing like a friendship it felt like a relationship from day 1 I met her. Dates were limited. it was more talking on the phone and texting, we live far.

I just want her to come back to me like she was before, I guess its a dream or wish thats too far fetched... but honestly? what should I do? im currently ignoring her hard also. should i start calling her ? texting her? she doesnt even want to hang out now, cus apparentely I said I cant' be your friend ever cus I like you too much

sorry dude, you are friendzoned. You waited too long to escalate. Approach other girls and you will forget her in no-time. Having one-itis is bad trust me. You feel like u need her, that she HAS to be in your life. Cut those thoughts.
- YOU DON"T NEED THAT GIRL
- THERE'S A BUNCH OF OTHER PUSSY OUT THERE

I know, i've been in your situation, but all you are here is her gay-friend.
So again: forget her, and you forget her by approaching other girls.

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I think im in the creep zone, cus she doesnt even wanna hang out anymore, blew me off every single attempt.. now i dont ask anymore...

That is the side-effect of coming out of the friendzone. She saw you as a friend. And because you said: i like you! her mind will go like this: "omg what will happen when i hang out with him?" And that's not a good thing. Because you have feeling for her, and she knows it, she will feel awkward around you.

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Nothing wrong with being friends with chicks, but you gotta let this one slide for now.

From my experience just saying to her plainly that you are not looking for a new friend might make her understand what you're looking for and maybe even change her mind when she sorts out her feelings. If you choose to say that - you shouldnt be the one to initiate contact afterwards IMO.


This is an EXPERIENCE. Take that experience with you and learn from it. Escalation - not just comfort - is very important.

Yeah I had the same thing happen straight out of uni. Best friends with a girl, fell for her, told her (via text of all things).... Never ever spoke to me again. Not even to tell me why. Apparently she told a friend that I had betrayed her trust and I was just pretending to be her friend to sleep with her.

Unfortunately when they react like that there's no going back so the best thing is to forget about them.

Sorry dude

I really really wanna go back, like when she called me I got such high grades, I would study knowing I can call her after... now it sucks everything sucks... maybe I feel this way because I wanted a companion not so much her? but my head is very heavy from regret and hope.. you guys gotta help me! i can't do my job properly cus I always go through previous texts and pictures... like she was super pretty and I can't beleive I had her hooked.. i know I didnt escalate... but i just wish I could see her more and more.. and make something happen guess its all over... she hasn't texted or called me in so long.. probally went to the next guy... what a cold world... honestly you guys have no idea.. i treated her like gold... she said personality matters most... i dont beleive it... i think she thought i was too skinny lool cus she mentioned it a couple of times.

guys.... keep ignoring her? or talk to her daily.. even though she is going to be SO BLUNT and dry in her responses shouldn't i try to make her see me as a friend again? or just delete her off my instant messaging *BBm

Things u have learned from this ( i hope ):
- Show your interest IN TIME, DO NOT WAIT TOO LONG
- Live in the PRESENT, not in the PAST. Sure we want to go back in time and change things, but it's just impossible, face that fact
- You can't be friends with a woman and expect her to love you suddenly. That (almost) never works.

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#1 rule you should follow from now on... NEVER ASK A GIRL OUT until you've had sex with her. Multiple times. In fact i never ask a girl to be my g/f period. After a while she asks me or its just implied.

I know how you feel man back b4 i knew this shit in college i had a crush on a chick for 2 years !!! I was 100% friendzoned. but i knew enough to follow my no sex no gf rule and we stayed friends to this day... 8 years later... we've had sex since then multiple times and i don't want her one bit now she wants me... funny how shit changes but we are still friends.

I'm sorry man, but how are you gonna have sex with a girl, without meeting her first. You can't just get into bed with a girl right away when she sees you? I agree about not asking, more kind of leading. Not every girl will jump into the bed, right away. Some need more work.

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I didnt wanna have sex with her so fast... I saw a future with her ... other girls i met i fucked them really fast but lost feelings for them cus I acomplished main goal.. i wanted to do it different i saw her as someone who i truly valued... what a lame ass approach!!! shoulda fucked her... so fucked u have to ahve sex first to make them yours i hate this

[quote="edgehedge"so fucked u have to ahve sex first to make them yours i hate this[/quote]

why? I had very very quick physical intimacy with the girl who now is my GF... I see nothing wrong with a quick start. we wanted each other and went for it

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