me and this girl have recently been having a thing. Its my first like 'thing' for a while. By thing i mean we are(were) about to start dating.

heres the problem
alll my attraction i had for her changed as she started to get so obsessive and so jealous over nothing. So the other night i told her we should just be friends, because i dont feel the same way anymore and because we fought alot. She then sends me a message saying shes gonna kill herself!!! WTF!!! Like i know shes been pretty sad lately except when i talk to her but really...this overboard. i was then forced to make her believe that i wanna try agen just so she wont do anything stupid. I want her gone now, i really dont wanna date her, she can be my friend.

How can i deal with this guys, i really dont have a clue, we arent even dating and this is a huge problem. Thought it was going to be easy.
HELP!!

Shes emotinally unstabile. You cant change this. That will follow her husband to the grawe. The best way is to just get out, get as far as you fuckin can from her.

but im so scared she kills herself because of me!

She is most likely bluffing. And besides its her life. Sorry to say it but if she wants to do it you cant prevent it. You can stay with her for the next ten years but as soon as you leave she might want to do it again. Listen, there is a lot of girls like that. Crazy and shit and she is just full of shit, she wont kill herself. Do not worry.

i do see what you are saying. She really is crazy....and that scares me haha. I also feel its away to get attention(Just what i think). Definitely gonna get out as soon as possible!! thanx man for talking, kinda helped me on the right path

Well just tell her hey look, a guy isint worth your life so stop being silly. Never test a girls unstable levels.

will not do it. my ex did the same thing when we broke up
she even texted me she had attempted suicide multiple times
(if so, you suck at killing yourself babe)

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If this were a movie, she'd be the bad guy and you'd be the hostage and the negotiator. She's trying to hold you hostage and also asking you for ransom.

hey

know this man if a person wants to kill themselves without anyone knowing means their sick of there lives and they'll do it but if a person tell you they will kill themselves its just they want attention. i've learned this in the internet from a psychiatrist.

if i was u i would call her parents to get her help. and if you caught her doing it call 911.they will take her to a mental institution.

thats what they did to my sister's friend, she was there for 2 weeks and she had horrible time there. she's cured now . i remember i bought her a cake when i visited her in the Mental institution and they give her a plastic fork and she was really happy to see me, she begged me to visit her everyday. the reason they put her in the Mental Institution is to show her that life in here SUCK and life out there is Beautiful.

so if she tried to do it or you caught her call 911 they'll take care of it

Tell a friend of hers what she said to you? They are more closer to the girl and let them deal with it, it's not your problem. You're not the boyfriend, and definately not her gay friend or something.

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Then call someone and make them aware.

Police, hospital, friends, family, pastor...

Dude, if you're that concerned that it's a real threat - CALL, intervene and fucking get out.


RR

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dam you guys help so much so glad theres a site for this! thanx everyone for tellin me advice, all of it made alot o sense

I had a similar situation once... Shes crazy and I agree with run away, its not your fault. But also, have you ever known someone that killed themself? More often than not they dont tell anybody.... they just do it. This girl is acting out to get your attention. Its on you to walk away for search for a better life.

Make sure that someone else is aware of this situation. You are not a doctor so you cannot second guess her mind frame.

Her parents would be a start.

Is she drugs?

Sometimes drugs make it like this.