I went sarging today with my cousin (first time) i went up to a HB8, got shutdown, i sounded nervous and couldnt keep the convo goin for 30 sec's. problem is i getting grow a pair of balls and sarge again. Im sick of being a lil p**sy and act scared all the time and being afraid of Rejection. I need to get better at approaches and have a better god damn mindset of goin in. i also need some more f***ing confidence

It comes with time bud, you just need more practice, and you need to study up! you approach enough women you will get there.

You need to learn how to get in the right mind frame! If a girl is mellow and calm, and you walk in like a fucking road runner, shaking and nervous then you are going in with the wrong energy, if a girl is high strung and energetic then you need to match her, be present, be in the moment, stop trying so hard and just be your self, some girls you will have nothing in common with and that's ok, other you will talk to for hours! confidence comes from within....what are you not confident about? figure it out and fix it so that its not an issue.

The biggest thing I see is people over thinking things! rather then being present and in the moment you are thinking "omg! did that douns dumb, what do I say next", You need to work on that!

example:

you: How are you?

Her: Good and you?

you: I am a right were I want to be in life today

Her: (laugh) wow I have never heard that before?

you: anyone can be good what does that really mean? you said you were good so why are you feeling good today?

Her: well bla bla bla lba.....


See what I did here? I was in the moment! I did not give a typical bullshit answer "good" or "great" that's boring! and its so typical, people say that because they are not in the moment! they don't actually think about how they feel, if someone asks me how I feel then I tell them, and if they tell me good then I will ask them why they are good?

You see what I mean? its a great way to start conversations.

honestly brother im just not confident in talking to the girl and think not to f up, im sick of getting friendzoned from textign a girl bro. Im just not confident to go up to a random girl and talk to her and make it them time of ur life, sometimes im not even confident on asking a girl out for coffee man

I know how u feel bro, but try this:

Go to a mall, and ask people/girls this:
- Where can i find the nearest Starbucks/Jack & Jones/Subway/MacDonalds/Train station.
These approaches are indirect, and they show no real intention for pick up. Trust me, u gotta use these approaches when u have AA, and make sure that u stick with it. U have nothing to lose, so why not right?

Once u are comfortable approaching girls, 2 sets and stuff like that, u won't be much in ur head anymore:)

Good luck!

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Alright bro im gona be sarging again soon hopefully i can do it, and whats ur advice on mid game and closure?

don't focus on that, let's say this is like driving a car:

You don't go on the highway on the first lesson if you aren't good with the controls of the car. So what i'm trying to say is; focus only approaching at the moment. Once you feel that you can approach any girl you want to speak with, then you should focus on mid game and stuff. It's all about getting into a feeling that approaching is natural, it's just 2 human beings having a conversation right?

Wallie

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so right bro i just gotta get that midnset thanks man

would the James Marshall technique work in a mall " Hi im not a creep, im not crazy, but ur F**king beautiful"