Well for the past two Fridays I've been to this club. The first Friday I was by myself, on the second story looking at the dancers. I spotted this pretty gal that just caught my eye. She was with her friend. Every time I looked down at them they were looking at me, but I didn't make it obvious I was looking at them. This happened many, many times. I didn't want to give the wrong signal to her friend who wasn't that easy on the eyes so I continued to gaze the crowd. After catching her looking at me while she was alone, she would smile and look away quick, I still didn't want to go talk to her because of her friend (who was also smiling, great). So after this, I'd see her go up to other guys and dance and talk with them, so I figured she wasn't interested and only her friend was, so I bailed.

The next time I went, I went with a friend and to my surprise she was there again, but this time alone. We went up to the second story and began to watch people dance. She quickly realized I was up there and would continue to look at me, and one time I caught her and smiled a little, she smiled back and looked away. She was constantly on her phone and looked like she was waiting for someone, so I decided to wait to talk to her to see if anyone would show. Well, during a slow song another guy went up to her and asked her to dance, my luck. Even though she was dancing with this guy, I would still catch her gazing up at me and smiling. After this she hung out with him for the rest of the night (he didn't even seem interested in her after a while, she seemed like a lingerer), and when he left, would go up to other guys and talk. So I was no longer interested and continued having a good time.

I feel like she is doing that on purpose, going up to other guys after realizing I wouldn't come up to her. Kind of like rubbing it in my face? I just didn't have the balls to talk to her either of times, and didn't know how to approach her.


Next time I go, should I talk to her, even though I don't know if she has a bf? Should I even care?

Any advice? (Convo lines, openers, gestures, etc?)

Quite simply mate: go say hi.

Whats the worst that will happen? she says no? laughs at you? you get embarrassed and feel humiliated?
- we all have. Thats the learning curve im afraid mate.

Isnt that better than wondering.. what if?

Dont worry about your "game" or your skills or what you should say. The longer you sit there and think, the more nervous you get, the worse you do.

Next time you see her: follow the 3 second rule. Go dive in the deep end!

For the opener: say hi, what was you up to at the club i saw you last?

- to be honest.. the opener can be anything! (within reason..) -also have a look at the approach threads. loads there

-When you approach, watch your body language. Stand straight and tall. Smile. Dont break eye contact - let her break it first. Walk and exuberate confidence!

Convo lines: This is my weakest bit too, so far i just ask her general questions, for example, you working here part time to pay off that uni debt? Ask something really open that leaves for plenty of options like that. (ie an open question...)
However your's is a different situation, i dont really know how much you know about her so that's your call!

However, once you build a little bit of rapport i use this: (its good for us beginners)
Write 10 things down you like in a women (check my journal for an example)
there you have it! 10 things to ask her (Something like: whats her greatest passion..)
Secondly, let her do the talk, and ask about what she says. Women love to talk, a great conversationalist is usually the listener!
Also check the mid game threads, some other tips there.

Be Yourself. Dont try to be mr pickup. Or mister smooth.

When you meet, you have two options: take her on spontaneous date there and then (like grab a coffee)
Or arrange for another time, grab her number.

Lastly: Accept failure, and dont give a flying f*ck when you do. -Mistakes and failures are once step closer to your goal. Not one step back.

Thats all i got without blabbering on..Good luck to you whatever you do.
If you want anything more, gimme a pm or ask around.

Good luck with whatever happens.

Regards,

Boyo

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