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| Shadowboxer | PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 5:28 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Wed May 30, 2012 10:44 pm Posts: 239 Location: None of your business | | What is better?
Indirect opener or Direct opener?
Can you please post an example of both and when NOT to use them?
Thanks in advance. _________________ You miss every shot you don't take.
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| agentprovocateur | PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 5:32 am | |
| Offline | | Dedicated Member |  | Joined: Fri Apr 20, 2012 1:08 am Posts: 551 | | Direct, unless she thinks you're a creep.
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| LiquidUnit | PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 12:45 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast | Joined: Sat Aug 06, 2011 11:14 pm Posts: 42 Location: Miami, FL | | This is a subject of great debate. Some swear by one side, and other with equal conviction will swear by the other. I follow the same philosophy Bruce Lee followed in martial arts, the style of no style, the form of no form.
Sometimes you have to open direct, such as times when you or the target are in a n obvious hurry, or if she is 30 feet ahead of you, it makes no sense to rush over and ask her for an opinion, you will come off as creepy.
sometimes, it is best to go indirect. I like indirect with warm approaches, such as meeting a a friend's friend at a party, or a new co-worker. The more situational of an open I can use the more indirect I will go.
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| pumpington | PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 1:02 pm | |
Joined: Sat Jul 02, 2011 4:37 am Posts: 3276 | | neither are better or worse, it depends on your aim, as well as the logistics
but if you are out and the only goal in mind is approaching women for sex, might as well just be direct, it will be more efficent with your time
just think of the level of investment required to hold a conversation once you open with a specific opener, that opener will set a frame for what sort of investment is being requested
under a sexual frame, you are more likely to get non-compliance from those that are not sexually interested, thus being direct screens out girls that are a waste of time
how ever if your aim is just to be social and to get into a talkative mood while making some friends and gaining social proof, an indirect opener under a social frame will be much less likely to open with non compliance as long as you are projecting a socially attractive image
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| crowdude | PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 1:40 pm | |
| Offline | | Member of MPUA Forum |  | Joined: Sun Apr 22, 2012 10:30 pm Posts: 111 | | Magic Bullets explained this really well. Here's an extract from the book:
"A system for attracting women is like a strategy for a basketball game. Some teams shoot a lot; others pass more and wait for a great scoring opportunity. Some teams run back quickly on defense; others rebound aggressively. But if you have players who are good at the fundamentals (which inbasketball means things like shooting, running, and dribbling) any reasonable strategy can work.
Just like if you have good dating fundamentals, many different systems can work. Sure, one system might fit you slightly better than another, just like in basketball a team with big players might use a more physical strategy than a smaller but faster team." _________________ Never mistake activity for achievement.
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| titanman | PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2012 2:03 pm | |
Joined: Tue Jan 10, 2012 2:04 am Posts: 552 | | Both. Do what you feel is best for the situation.
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