My biggest (perceive) flaw is lack of confidence with strangers. Once I get to know someone i'm fine. But it's that initial hurdle. So I heard about turning your biggest flaw into an asset and thought about using my lack of confidence as an opener. What do you think of the following opener?:


'Hey, I was wondering if you could do me a favour. I'm trying to overcome my chronic shyness and lack of confidence issues by approaching various strangers and striking up random conversation with them and I was hoping you would humour me for a few seconds'.

My first reaction to that opener was to cringe! However I guess it could work. The target might see you as refreshingly honest. I would say after an opener like that you would deffinately stack forward straight away and make sure what ever you say next is very interesting with some good embedded DHV's

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it's quite paradoxical presenting yourself as shy when talking to a random stranger. So even if it's actually true depending on what you say next it will make it sound very ironic and funny. So i would be sure to have a backpack of confidence to carry on after such opener

Try it out. Tell us how it went.

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I have seen this approach suggested before and actually I think it has a great element of truthfulness to it that probably makes it effective.

I might change the line somewhat to something like this: "Hi! I am trying to cure my chronic shyness by talking to random people. My name is Bob. How am I doing so far?"

The only problem is that if you are not shy, this comes off as a much too clever pickup line and won't work. If you are shy, I can foresee many conversations and even a few hugs out of using this, but it strikes me that escalating from that point will be tough.

So, I would say use it as a newbie mission and confidence builder and then move to another approach.