Hello;

I am cheating on my best friend (which we decided to be excluseive) with a 9 out of towner.

The new one is gonna be in town till Monday 16th. I have got a fwe nights left.

If anyone is expert on smoothing the situation without anyone finding out please shoot me a message. Everytime I dont see number 2 I die a little bit inside.

Cheers fuckers.

What's the situation? You fear getting caught? I don't get your issue here.

Yes mate, I dont wanna get caught.

Also need to find a way so iphone doesnt show the sms preview!

Haha yeah had to do that exact same thing with the iPhone a year or two back. It can definitely be done in settings under messages if I remember rightly. Still shows the contact name though so be discrete!

Does the one on the side know about your main girl? If she does, this should be easy.

Even if she doesn't, main thing is just finding a way to make yourself look legit busy to your main girl while you're off having your fun elsewhere

Wow, what a loser.

Cheating isn't what PU is about.

This. Respect your woman.

Pick one and stick with one.

Easy to say for some of you but for me its not. I plan to write a long essay about the topic of cheating.

I personally cannot be happy without cheating. I had 7 yeas of LTR and the years i've been loyal (denying my instinct) i became very very unhappy.

Advice
- A man shouldn't hold back.
- when time feels right and you have a deep connection with her try to slowly tell her this is who you are.
- In my case we would fight about it every day. But rationally she does understand my situation.

For me it is cheating on my partner or cheating on myself. I now don't want both so i started to become honest and accept things as they are. People will follow you believe me.

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HI

If you can not be loyal tell that to your gf, and do not lie that you will be exclusive with her if you are not going to be. As simple as that. But if you promise her that you will be faithful knowing that you won't its pretty low.

STOP ACCUSING GUYS THAT CHEAT

If you are the guy that is not tempted to fuck other girls, please do me a favour and tell yourself in the mirror you are the best guy ever, i'm genuinly jealous!!! AND DONT READ ANYTHING BELOW THIS LINE
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Again i plan to write a good essay about this! But let me give you a sneak peek. Me and my gf are now exploring open relationship. Something i could´ve never imagine she´d try.

Dude i loved my girl soo much (still do). And i tried sooo hard to not cheat. I started to make myself believe the most stupid things in order to suppres my instinct. iT MADE ME SOO UNHAPPY THAT EVENTIUALLY SHE DIDN'T LIKE ME ANYMORE. AND I DIDN'T LIKE MYSELF ANYMORE

let me give you a promise
- You will never become monogamous NEVER
- You will always feel unsatisfied if you don't fuck other girls.
- NOTHING can compensate your need to fuck girls, NOTHING

So the choise is yours. You can either live your life as a robot of society's conventions and dogma's or accept yourself and TAKE ACTION

IF YOU DECIDE TO DENY YOUR INSTINCT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE OR WANT TO DELAY ACCEPTING YOURSELF UNTIL YOU ARE MARIED AND HAVE KIDS SO YOU CAN LEAVE YOUR FAMILY AND FALL INTO A MIDLIFE CRISIS DONT READ ANYTHING BELOW THIS LINE
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If you decide to accept yourself and TAKE ACTION read this
I know it's hard to accept you are a person that has feelings that contradict the way society is put together. But if this is who you are. Accept it and tell it to the people around you!

What happens when you tell her
After you tell her this is who you are and there is no onther way than accepting it. (I reccomend taking a relationship break and than come back). Then this happens.
a. Fights fights fights
b. Drama drama drama
c. But she will not leave you
d. more fights.
e. The sex you two have together gets 1000X as intense
f. more fights
g. You enjoy eachothers precense more
h. FIGHTS!
i. You now notice that she cannot leave you
j. more fights.
k. I'm not sure what comes after this but i'll keep you up 2 date!

You have to be able to see your girl unhappy from time to time and i thought i could never do this. But the thing is, tell her you two should focus on al the positive things you have. And how much better sex has become etc.

Some rules
- make solid rules together!!!
- Don't brag to your friends. Open relationship stuff should be a normal thing. NO BRAGGING
- During the fights tell her to focus on all the positive things you two have together and how this is improving both of your lifes.
- assume she likes to fuck guys on the side as well and talk about how equal you two are.
- Be a calm alfa dude
- never show a girl you've met to her
- Never fuck girls you 2 both know
- Don't tell about the girls you're seeing she'll get madly jealous
- Sometimes its easy and tempting to tell something about the other girls to make her behave better when she's bad too you because you make her a little jealous, do not overdo that in her mind you fuck 100X as much girls as in real life
- From time to time tell her she's most important to you
- Tell her that if she's not comfortable with this she should be 100% honest to you and to herself

Thing is she'll mostly be unhappy because she want's to be the most important girl in your eyes. The fact that you fuck other girls (that she doesn't know) is not that much of a problem to her.

THIS IS IMPORTANT DO NOT GO BACK INTO NORMAL LTR WITH HER. NEVER!!!!!
SHE WILL TRY TEST IF THIS IS REAL EVERY 2 DAYS OR SO. LEAD HER AND TELL HER THINGS SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. ITS EIGTHER NO RELATIONSHIP OR AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP.

REMEMBER YOURSELF EVERY DAY THIS IS WHO YOU ARE. AND DON'T GIVE UP

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HI

So, basically you're a pussy?

See the difference between you, and real men...Wait, no..What's the same between you and real men is that we all have temptations to fuck other woman when in a monogamous relationship with a woman. The DIFFERENCE between you and real men, is that a real man who could no longer hold out on temptation, would be...well...a man...and tell his woman what was going on, out of respect for himself, and her. He wouldn't be going behind her back to feed his own school girl insecurities. You want to be a real man, challenge yourself. Become a better man. Be honest with yourself, and those who choose to be a part of your life.

Guys if you're going to cheat (personally when I get a GF I have no intention of it), but if you're so inclined, just listen intently to the words in this song [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jewtYBvP-_0[/youtube] it is pretty much a perfect example of what to do before you become exclusive with someone!

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"My toughest opponent is always myself"
Musterion's Journal

I am monogamous.
I am satisfied with my current girl cause I know how to keep her happy and, more importantly, she knows how and is willing to keep me happy even more.
My need to fornicate other girls is satisfied by said girl. However, you make it sound as if us guys have some primal sexual thirst that nothing can quench.

No offence, but it's as if you're fighting some invisible war against the "unjust" norms of society. Truth is, you're the one looking deviant here. Nobody in their right mind would follow this mentality.

Now you say you have the need to cheat. Common sense dictates that that means you're not ready for a LTR....so why are you in one? You love your girlfriend? Clearly not as much as you'd think.

Tl;dr version: Appreciate what you have before you lose it.

Why not just make it an open relationship? or downgrade it to friends with benefits. That way you have a lot less expectations (boyfriend expectations)

You got me wrong, I do not hate guys who cheat. I hate pussies who KNOW that they will certainly cheat on her and still say her that you will be exclusive.
If you KNOW that you will cheat on her be a man and do not lie to her, do not promise her that you will be faithful and exclusive.

All I would suggest is to be honest with you current girlfriend and tell her you want to fuck other women because that is what YOU want.. Now if she stays with you, then do as you wish. I'm just not a fan of sneaking behind someones back, I just think thats a bit fucked up. Be honest about it, I thinks she'll stick around anyway.

I have had 3 girlfriends all at once in the past who all knew about each other.. It didn't last as long as I would of liked but it was a interesting experience.

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