hello everyone
I have read many PUA books and none of them actually answer my question so i wanted ask this in here. Here's my situation:
Most of the times i get 3 dates in a week and i'm not a real text, chat guy. so as you see i just see the girl once or twice a week and sometimes if we cant make it, it becomes once in 2 weeks or so.
Now i had maybe hundreds of dates but as i have learned that cuz of my culture i think, you have to ask the girl to be your girlfriend in order to be closer to her and i have done that only once when i was in high school and didnt need it anymore until now.
Lets get to the questions. So as you see i dont call or text the girls everyday, usually once a week and that is usually talk about her/something then ask for a date. is this something right to do? i'm a good talker but i dont enjoy texting that much.
I usually get 3-4 dates with each girl, i can hold the hand for palm reading more than half an hour, touch her feet with mine, talk about relationships, her past... but never tried hair touch and those light seductive hand to hand touches or those "you have sexy eyes" lines during the dates. am i missing big stuff here cuz of not doing that? After the 3rd or 4th date, the girl gives excuses to not meet for the next date. That's when i stop texting / calling her anymore and usually the story gets over at this point. How do i pass this? Is this because she expects me to tell her i love her and ask her to be my girlfriend. But when i dont do it she gets off? In which date its better to 'admit' you like her and tell that you want to be more than just friends. I hate this admitting thing we have here and i dont really know how and when to do.

Sorry for the long post guys. Waiting for your comments and advices...

That's your sticking point. You have friendzoned yourself by the 3rd or 4th date. You shouldn't talk about past relationships whether yours or hers. But you're doing something right because you can get the girl to have a date with you.

You need to sexually escalate. Try this for some 10 dates and tell us if it works for you, esp-model-of-escalation-vt97891.html

It appears to be working for me on my first and second test. Who knows? It might work for you.

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first of all you dont ask her thats lame. you should know without words with how you talk like the tone or pace of your conversations and touch each other. you should not have to ask a girl if you'v established a deep connection.

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[quote="dirtypreacher"]first of all you dont ask her thats lame. you should know without words with how you talk like the tone or pace of your conversations and touch each other. you should not have to ask a girl if you'v established a deep connection.[/quote]

I know but imagine a total different culture here. I lived in usa and at that time everything was going great, had model ones there.was surprised how different things work out here.its like asking for a permission even though you have the fucking key to enter.if that how works out then i ATLEAST need a different line than those lame "i think i love you" things.

btw whats your opinion on that "stop texting after getting excuses for the next date" thing i do? some tell me that it sounds like i'm ripping the whole paper just because of the last line. and i get comments as "you dont give too much attention to them, you should call / text girls more", want to get your opinions on that.

Hellhound: thanks bro. i do that slow talk and pause all the time. but missing the others. that may be the thing to push me until 3-4th date but stop there cuz of missing the others. ok i had this wild situation and want to hear what you would have done: she doesnt go out with many boys. she says she is not looking forward to having a bf cuz he wants to live in some other city in the future. she says "do you know who i match you with?" then says "i... (has the same meaning as 'me' in my language)" a long pause here then "...match you with (some other girl in school)". she also tells she went to a fortune teller and telling you that she'll have a boyfriend according to the fortune.
i have online datings with the girls from usa and never have these kinda fucked up conversations. now i'm throwing this out of my mind but MAYBE could the game here work as become best friends then become girlfriend / boyfriend? sounds stupid but just maybe?

i'm giving the "sorry for the long post" lie again guys.wish the situations are not this much fucked up.