im 19, and i was a virgin until 2 weeks ago. I lost it with my girlfriend but i've been having a problem every time we try to have sex, which is going soft whenever i have to stop and reach for a condom. It already happened 4 times and it's starting to frustrate me really bad We talked about trying other contraceptives besides the condom but even if we have sex without the rubbers, it is really important for my future sex life to be able to use them! What do I do?? Please guys, help me the best you can...i really need it!

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Having sex without condoms is a bad idea most especially when you're new to sex. The risks are just too great and too many.

Try this. It's a modified Kline-and-Graber technique.

1. Buy a dozen condoms.
2. When alone, try to fap and just when you're about to get off, stop.
3. Insert the condom.
4. Fap, until you get off with the condom on.
5. Repeat process 11 more times.

If you're still having problems, practice some more.

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To go along with what Hellhound said (which is great advice):

This sounds really fucking weird, but try masturbating in a sexual position. Get in bed and put yourself in a doggy style position and masturbate that way with the condom on. The problem I had for awhile was that I always masturbated while sitting down or laying down, so my body wasn't used to being in a fully upright position. If you're doing it with your legs under that kind of pressure, you will gradually get used to it for the real thing.

Yep, pretty sure I just killed this topic with the sheer power of awkwardness. Bye now.

Haha, that reminded me of a really embarrassing moment I once had in front of a nurse...

thanks, i'll try that Kline-and-Graber thing. Just one more question: whenever i start foreplay with my girlfriend i never know if i should go down on her first and after that she blows me or if it's better the other way around...cause what happens is that when i go down on her she gets really wet and can even orgasm but for me it doesnt do much, my penis gets semi-hard. And when she gives me a blow job i get really hard but her pussy dries, so if i put on a condom right after she blows me i can't just shove my dick in there. How do you guys usually do?

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Uh, do yourself a favor. Lift some weights and look at some YouTube videos on high intensity interval training for cardio and for strength. If that's not enough, enroll yourself in an MMA class. The more aggressive the MMA class is, the better for you.

The goal? Get your testosterone levels high so Mr. Dick is always friendly with Ms. Pussy.

Good luck bro.

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Ha ha, awesome bro! I was just about to say that he needs to get over the part where he sees the condom as an unattractive thing. This is not bad at all!


Also, if you have problems with this kind of thing it is gonna get worse if you do what everybody does at that point, start rubbing your dick in panic with and without her help. It is just gonna add on to your stress and if you are stressed or freaked out, it is not gonna work.
Biologically stress hormones (adrenaline) uses the same receptors as the things that regulate erection so that it will be impossible for you to get it up unless you calm down.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

look up tension myositis syndrome. Don't worry thers nothing wrong with u. most sexual problems are due to repressed emotions and stress. I went through the same thing. Now I get horny all the time- its crazy