Hello! I'm new here. I'm a 20-year old student from Finland. I know a little about this PUA-thing and I like to go clubbing and I usually do ok with women.


Some time ago I met a perfect girl who I fell in love with. In terms of being a player I've screwed up everything. I thought showing my real love would be enough but it wasn't.
We like each other a lot as friends too and have great time together. But I still love her and I want her. She is not easy. I think I need a whole new beginning.

I'm meeting her today again. First I think I'll say that I got over it and it's ok for me to just be friends. Then I'm planning on starting to play tricks with her.
What I really lack with her is authority. Any tips on gaining it?

Any tips are extremely welcome!!

We like to watch movies at home or at cinema, go out shopping, have a walk in a forest, going to gigs etc and we both like to sing and play guitar.

I'm currently gaming a chick that friendzoned and rejected me in the past, very successful so far. You wanna know why? Because it's been 2 years since we last met.

My point is, if you want to escape the friendzone it's crucial to have distance. 2 years is obviously way too long if you're in love (assuming you are), but you will definitely need a few months for her to see you as a different man. Just cut contact with her, see what's up in 2 months. Meanwhile start reading some material.

i second that^^

needlz gave you a fucking good advice,though,can you pull it...?

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Thanks! I guess that's the right way to go but I can't wait for two years.. I might post here how things turn out! After todays meeting I'm feeling hopeful already. I know she likes me a lot too.
I hope she does not note the difference in my attitude. I'll try to be careful.

aFinn, I went through this over the summer with a young girl I met online. I fell pretty hard for her, and she was even displaying a lot of interest for the first few weeks - we were very physically intimate, had sex, and spent almost every day together, often into the night where the next morning I'd drive her home.

You can imagine how crushed I was when we were talking and she had mentioned that a friend of hers knew her and I were only 'friends'. I had even confronted her on this and her response to me was "a lot of guys fall for me", "I can be affectionate with people without feeling anything emotionally" - real cold, callous and minimizing remarks; she wasn't a bad person, just young and coming into her sexuality (and like a young kid with a gun, realizing the power that comes along with it). Long story short, I cut contact with her for a month and then re-approached her under the guise of being friends (I figured I'd win her over, this was long before I entered the PUA community). In short, I was AFC, but even if I employed some of the PUA techniques I learned here, I think the relationship was already too entrenched.

In the end I learned a heck of a lot from that experience and have become much stronger because of it. If you're going to proceed with this as friends you're only denying your true self and eventually she'll see the leakage and more importantly you may feel great being around her, but at the end of the day, when you're all alone with your thoughts you'll only feel hurt and resentful towards yourself.

If I were you I'd save myself the grief of pretending to be someone I'm not. I don't think you can be her friend, particularly now and it's not only unfair to you, but also to her because you're misrepresenting your intentions.

I know it's difficult when you really like the girl, but realize a lot of having One-ittis has a lot to do with projecting attributes we want to see onto a girl, any particular girl we feel attracted to, and the reality is that she may not be the one for you but as it is your judgment is clouded.

Ultimately its your decision, but given what I went through for 4 months doing what you're about to embark on, you'd be better off taking a time out and thinking things through more thoroughly.

I would suggest not seeming too needy. Learning that willing to lose the girl will build up a strong character. There will come another time where another girl will show up and catch your eye. When the time comes, it will be much easier to convey to the girl that you aren't afraid to be alone. Hopefully she will invest as much into the relationship equally. Show her you are a fucking man with options. Talk to other women.

Thanks a lot for your replies!

We've known each other for almost 3 months now. We were really close and had sex too. We still meet almost every day. I have a very special taste for women and I know girls like this one are very hard to find. And this one is just perfect.

We're meeting today again. We are going to my garage to measure the cylinders and crankshaft on my old Toyota Hilux diesel engine . She likes cars&motors, listens to metal music but looks like a very beautiful ordinary girl next door. And she is straight. That should say something about the speciality of this girl and my taste. Before I met this woman I thought such girls don't even exist.

If I can't get things to change in the next weeks, I think I'll have to leave her because I just can't get over her if we keep seeing. Still every morning I wake up with her in my mind. It's crazy.

You probably allready like her too much to do what's necessary in order to have her falling in love with you. BTW I would not say I'm ok with being friends. Put the pressure on her and let her break rapport. Make the ho say no principle.

Best advice in bevity is to freeze her out. Make her miss you a bit.

Don't tell her you dont love her anymore, thats something an 8th grader does. Be a man about your feeling, that shows authority. Definitely cancel on this "date" you are having. Just say you made other plans, that you found this girl at a bar, and you guys clashed perfectly.

Then just meet a girl like go sarging again, become a PUA, and show pictures on facebook. Let her see you are having fun with out her, and let her get jealous a bit.

Once she starts texting you reward and punish her. If she takes to long to respond you dont respond. If she texts back immediately reward her by doing the same. You need to condition her to your authority.

She flakes on you, you flake on her and dont even respond, cause you have better shit to do than deal with someone who can't commit to decisions. Simple as that.

Also take up a new hobby, and let her see you doing this (again facebook photos will help) get girls to like your shit, meaning go out with girls and do things. Girls and facebook are synonyms for teenager and weed (pothead) its just they need their fix.


It will be hard but I believe if you care about her you have to be able to lose her first. You will get over this don't worry. I have just done this with a girl. I was in the FZ she had a boyfriend. But now I am going out with her on some dates. Well see what happens from there.

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Guys I dont know about the rest of you but it looks as though this one's in the early stages of developing a bad case of One-ittis.

Somebody call a doctor, stat!

He's long gone..

If you've already had sex with her, just pull a random freeze out.. for 2-3 days. That'll spike her interest.

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I'm confused, you all are hanging out every day and having sex? What is the problem?

Two advices ...

1) To insult her ... to say "I hate you. I thought you were real! Just fuck off ... pack your shit and leave this town! You are done!" ... must not half ass this!
- Why do this? The reason is when we persist so much and nothing works, we are always pulling pulling pulling ... sometimes one big push will do it. Normally she will be hurt by this and ask you why you are doing this ... she may even cry if you go to far .... but that's when you go pull her back in and say that you were really hurt at the moment and apologize ...

2) Go out with other girls ... don't you feel that you are a needy person trying to get her? Girls can smell your neediness ... even though if it's unconscious. Go out with like 5 different girls ... make out with them ... interact with them ... sleep with them ... your neediness will go away and you may even appreciate her more when compared to the other girls ... then go for the pull. The reason is when you've developed that abundance mind frame ... this will counter the needy personality to your "the one" girl.

This may sound extreme ... but think about it ... girls hate needy guys ... you may not be a needy guy originally ... but when you find that one girl ... that needy guy comes out ... and is not appealing to the girl.

Sincerely,

Donston

Move on. Game other girls. Don't waste the limited time you have on this earth going after a girl that you warped into a goddess.

Ya, insult her, that'll work...