we like each other but i dont like her nearly as much as she likes me. ive known her for years and this was kind of like our third night together. last night things got heated and i was able to get all her clothes off but only got head cuz she says she "only has sex with her boyfriend" what do i do what do i do what do i do

Tell her you expect sex from girls you are attracted to as part of getting to know her. You have to control the frame, if your beliefs are stronger then hers you shall prosper.

in a way i do feel like this is true. she wants a relationship but im not ready to get into one. i never am unless im positive that i head over heels for a girl, because relationships take so much commitment. there is a part of me that genuinely likes her tho. i wanna say having sex might make me like her more...but i dnt know how to pass that message without sounding like a dick, or making her think im only using her to get her in bed.

As far as end game goes once you actually have her over or are over her place, it should be a breeze. Not because it’s “easy,” but because both of you should be on autopilot. Her with her candid resistance, you with your unstoppable charm.

BUT, in the case of resistance, I outline a few rules you can follow to prevent/overcome it:

(a) Don’t escalate too soon. Let her get comfortable in your place. Have all the necessities of a bachelor pad minus the towels with FAP stains. If you’re at her place, show a combination of good manners + comfortableness. On the other hand, don’t wait too long to escalate; 3 IOIs then go for the kill.

(b) Alcohol helps. Avoid some rapist class shit, but watching a movie while cuddling and sipping on wine can make a huge difference. It loosens inhibitions and makes things seem like they’re “just happening.” You need the SPAM to have a sense of serendipity, things need to seem like they’re moving forward uncontrollably.

(c) Use a combination of freezing out / pushing forward. If she resists, don’t be afraid to create a void. Pleasure and pain cannot exist without each other. I have a friend (Tadpole) who was in the middle of foreplay once and when the girl said “I don’t actually want to have secks, can we just do other stuff?” he replied “No… I can do that stuff better myself” and then promptly left. They fucked 2 days later.

(d) Verbally Agree, Physically disagree: She says “I don’t want to have secks” You reply, “Me neither, I don’t have secks with girls I’m not in love with.” Then you both have secks anyways. For some reason after you tell a girl this, escalation becomes 5x easier. Statistically I’ve gotten laid more often by saying “I don’t want to have secks” than “I want to have secks.”

(e) Agree to less: Settle for less and then see if you can escalate further down the road. Tell her “ok, we won’t have secks, I’ll just lick your asshole a little bit.” And then afterwards, see if she’s aroused enough to push further.

Lambert has some good advice and he seems pretty experienced, but man I'm too lazy to do half of that.

I understand the don't wanna be a "dick thing" your talking about, I never really let it get to this point, I always lay out expectations through storytelling and "dating experience" antidotes which pretty much say im a sexually expressive person that expects hot, pro-longed sex early in any relationship. If they are not down with that, and many arnt, they are the ones that bail. I never explicitly etll them these things, but I make it clear enough through the sexual frame I introduce extraordinarily early on.

hmmm i might just be a bit impatient. cuz seriously, i can do anything to her but penetration. oral, i can touch her wherever, she sleeps naked on me, and it is the third night were together...ill try some of lamberts tips too

All else fails learn to make long island ice teas and cosmo's.

Same exact boat, this nice HB8.5-9.5 depending on the day, flat out was talking to me I only fuck my boyfriends and I was immediately turned off, like bam that means I gotta work a lot harder...

So yea detox any more tips to crack this chick. We flirt like non stop, she will sit next to me in all my classes I have with her, and when she sees me shell just walk with her nose in the air tryin to act badass until I call her out on it... so yea help me with this chick!!

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She said that so that later when you guys do have sex, it's your fault an not her's. In her mind she can justify cheating on her boyfriend, if she protests to you first, and later has sex with you anyway. Because in her mind, it was your responsibility to stop pursuing her after that, and since you didn't, it's not her fault in a way. Women are weird when it comes to double standards and cheating.

build more comfort to obliterate any last minute resistance, and seduce. Repeat until she gives, and she will...patience my child.

Verbal flirting isn't the same as kino flirting - you're likely stuck in a verbal flirting feedback loop. Kino the ho, call her ass out showing her you're a man of action, not words. Do this and she will be on your lap before you know it. I'm still not sure if you're doing pronoun switching to conceal your homosexuality, either way my advice still holds.

First off you told me to stop verbal flirting, but then said call her ass out, kk kino might be a good idea, but what exactly would this consist of?

Second, you gotta chill with the gay shit, I dont know if oyu have a fantasy about picking up little boys from sites, but its fucking messed up and unless you want to have a fun conversation with a moderator I would chill the fuck out.

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Did happy hour at the gay bar end early?

Well that was an intelligent comment, im glad your capable of thinking of smart responses all by yourself. Very very mature. You are the coolest person in the world. Enjoy your day harassing people on the internet. Sheesh I wanna be just like you when I grow up!

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Calm down Princess.