If you have spots (and a face that is no better than average), is it a waste of time to try and get with any decent-looking girl? Do spots mean you're no longer physically passable?

I don't think its big problem for getting attractive girls. It is more for you, because it is undermining your confidence and that is tons of bigger problem to get HB's than spots on your face, but if you want you can wear a bit covering makeup and see if you get better results or more confidence

listen man, you have way bigger problems to worry about then a few pock marks on your face, you seem to have little to no self esteem, as well as no self confidence,

how can you expect to get enough admiration and respect from any girl to lead her to sex, when you can't even respect or admire yourself,

how can you think a girl with any viable options at all, would want someone that wants her purely out of desperation with no actual lust or desire for her, but rather for the status that being with her would bring him, to validate his feelings of indadiquecy

there are much more important things then being really good looking, a person sub-communicates who they are by what they are saying and the actions they take, all in account to the frame around what is being said and done in reguards to their personality

after meeting someone you can guage who they are, it isn't fair to judge people, but everybody still does it on some level, a kind person, comes off as kind, a timid person comes off as timid, a confident person, seems sure of themselves, it does not take long to rekognize what kind of person you are socializing with

for women, yes looks do matter, but don't put things in the perspective of the frame of mind of a guy, looks matter less to women, then they matter to guys, that is why so many guys when they actually go out and practise, just realize not to hold back and believe in them selves and all of a sudden, they see leaps and bound in difference, and the impossible all of a sudden begins to become possible for them, but there is no magic pill, you can cover up the scent of vomit, that reaks through your core by hosing it down with fabreeze (routines) so that breifly you can't smell the puke, but as soon as you run out of fabreeze, the person smelling the wind, notices they were fooled, and it was just vomit after all,

girls wan't cool, fun to be around guys, that bring some sort of emotional stimulation to the table, confidence as apposed to a guy that is never sure of himself, secure as apposed to insecure, in general, most people, men and women, want to be around people like this, ugly, handsome, what ever, cool people are cool, and they are more enjoyable to be around then insecure, needy, people with low self esteem and low self confidence, your perception of who you are shapes reality, if you think you are terribly ugly and no one could ever love you, and there is nothing special about you, then you will easily sell this as a truth to other people, how you feel on the inside is what you present to the outside,

now, on that note, looks are highly subjective, find an overweight girl and sign her up for plenty of fish and you will realize this, you might never in a million years want to touch her, but put that girl on plenty of fish and she is going to have a good 10 new messages a day minimum, looks are entirely dependant on the person, and it is ironic because they are even more subjective for women then they are for men and a girls preference in looks will change during ovulation,

I doubt you have really even put a minimum effort into meeting girls and sleeping with them, or your perception would be much different, your posts scream I tried to hit up a really high status popular girl with options and she turned me down... forever alone :'(, but that is not how it is, pickup is not about getting that one girl, it is about becomming a likeable confident attractive fun to be around person and learning to screen girls that interest you, and sleep with them, you don't try to win girls over that are not interested, you just screen them out and talk to different ones, as long as there are girls around, you can go meet them, nothing is stopping you but yourself, and if your excuse is there are no girls around, then find a solution to your problem (move to a city)

Mate I have acne and when I am at my hosue I bug out like a 8th grade girl finding out she became a woman. However, when I am out gaming I dont even remember, I actually don't think about it once, I am way to confident to think about that petty shit.

Also remember a lot of girls wear concealer and cover up. They also have acne, in fact woman have worse acne in their late 20's until 40's I believe, they go through worse hormonal changes. We get it worse (men) when we are teens due to our puberty changes.

You know how they say men get better looking as they age, well its true. I think you should try what I have done.

1. In the shower or first use Clean and Clear deep moisturizing Cool effect wash. Lather it up for a good 15 seconds in your hands, and make sure your face is wet. Apply to your face for no more than 15 secs. Then wash off.

2. After you wash off (this is the last step of your shower so do acne after washing hair, body, and shaving) lower the temp in shower so its cool, and then use "Cetaphil Gentle all body" w.e called, and lather and apply to face again 10 seconds no more, and wash off with cool water.

3. Take a washcloth and barely pat your face dry, you dont want to irritate your skin at all.

4. Lastly, and I choose to do this with chopsticks cause I want as little to no interaction with my hands and face. I take "erythromycin and benzoyl peroxide topical gel" use my chopstick and spread it on my face, I let it harden and make a white coat layer on my face. Then I dab a little extra on noticeable spots.

5. When you need to go to work, a party, or what ever you like doing, just wash off and repeat steps 1-3. This ensures your face is clean from any bacteria and dirt that accumulated during the process.

I stress this last factor, no porn no masturbation, nothing! Masturbating leads to excretion of hormones in an unnatural way. So don't do it! Also be more confident mate, I don't have much acne anymore, but everyone get's a little spot, and trust me I am a little bitch about it, complete bitch. So I am there with you, but damn if I let that affect my game, I am me, not the acne is I.

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Thanks for that Raphael. Just wondered about the masturbation thing though - are you sure that affects acne? So someone who jacks off more is likely to have more acne than someone who is celibate? Is that just something you've heard about, or do you find it actually works for you?

Don't you have to 'empty out the tank' every so often though, so you don't burst?

Okay good point, obviously this doesnt affect everyone, and there is no 100% scientific test to prove such, but I recommend you follow such actions as I have. I have personally, and have read on many forums, that masturbation affects your acne.

This doesnt mean you can bust a nut once in a while if you must, I mean when in the world does 1 thing ever destroy everything (dont actually answer that question I can name many, its a point).

Also if you want to not burst when ur with a girl masturbate before you go out on the date. But dont wank it every day cause you sarging every day. Once you get consistent sex there wont even be a need for it. (or consistent hj bj w.e)

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Hey man for what its worth - I'm guessing you've been to the dermatologist and they have not solved the problem. It's a hard idea to conquer but tension/stress that you repress in your subconscious mind can cause acne as well as random stuff like severe back pain, migraines, stomach ulcers. Only 10 percent of the population is open to the idea as this for SPAM but it cured me. Most people dont believe in the body mind connection and treat them as separately. Check out DR John E Sarno . He wrote a book about it and how to cure yourself.

Just do what i did. I used to have rlly bad acne until I used this cream called benzagel which did a good job removing it lol. It can be any other product though like proactive or even I hear there are certain anti-biotics now that treat it. In any case, it really boosted my confidence. Oh and a bit of makeup CAN actually help. Not too much though were not girls

I don't think girls mind too much to be honest - it is more to do with how it affects you. I had acne pretty bad between the age of about 14 and 17, now I'm 21 and I still get the odd breakout, but nothing too disastrous.

The thing is, when I was 14/15, I was pretty popular with the girls! But then as I got to sort of 16/17ish, I don't know if I became more vain or what, but I would start to go into my shell on days where I had bad acne breakouts.

I don't think that girls mind too much though, as long as you don't let it affect your personality and confidence, it's not a major thing. And I am not at all embarrassed to say that I borrowed my Mum's cover up/concealer when I was in my teens, and even now have a tube of emergency concealer for if I have a bad breakout that I want to cover up for a special event! Womanly? Probably! But it makes me feel more confident, so I don't really care!

I have had vitiligo for nearly all my life. Of course it has affected me mentally but so far I have had relationships with girls, I'm still gaming as much as I can, I have had sex etc etc.

DUDE, Acne?? this should not affect you so much. I hope you can understand that! But since I also have self esteem issues alot, I obviously empathise with you. Honestly, just remember that your acne will go away and in the meantime you should be confident in yourself because in reality it's very insignificant!

Hope that helps bro