Hey PUA community.

I'm having a bit of a trouble with a certain girl I'd like to get a little more intimate with. The deal is I have kissed her on different occasions, slept over at hers and we have rubbed each other on the outside of the clothing. Lately she has been trying to regain the power by being pretty distant, not returning some of my messages. I didn't show much interest in the fact that she was being that way (Cat String) and in return she has been starting to give me attention again. I rarely see her outside of her work. I have her number and have her added on facebook. Also what should be noted is that she has alot of AFC going for her all the time. Me not giving her attention is giving me the upper hand, however, to me it seems as if she's scared of anything getting real.

Basically what I'm asking is how can I message her either via text or facebook in order to organise a meeting so that I can true my routine on her?

Any suggestion will be greatly appreciated

Regards, Tetris

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You didn't escalate past that when you were rubbing each other on the outside of the clothing? You're suppose to lead and take charge man, if you didn't do that and she wanted you there's a fair chance, that you've lost your chance.

Call her.

Thing is I didn't know about "the game" until a bit after we did stuff. I thought as if I had lost that chance also but. she invited me to sleep over again after that, and It was odd. she was doing stuff but at the same time she was pulling away. She had a bit of power at the time and now she doesn't and it seems as if she wants it back. Today I saw her for a brief second. I negged her and then left with a smile, then i get home and I have an inbox from her. She clearly still has something there but she is trying to keep power. I would ring her but, the thing is, I wouldn't really know how to run "the game" over the phone. That's my dilemma.

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I decided to ring her, but first I established I had power by saying " Dude I can't be bothered going back on facebook, I'll ring you in about half an hour"
Surprisingly she answered within 2 rings. I negged her a little, fluffed a little, Performed the cube over the phone, she was astounded. I said to her "look I have to be up early tomorrow but I'd like to continue this, hows about we do something tomorrow night, but only for about an hour because I have things to do"
She replied " okay, lets do it then, around 9 o'clock?" which then I replied " yeah that should be fine, I'll double check first. *paused for a few seconds* yeah should be alright"
she then wouldn't hang up until I made it clear that I was going to, so I did and now it seems sorted. Now I just perform my routine and all should be sweet.
Thanks for the suggestion of ringing her and letting her know I am the man.
Very much appreciated

King Regards, Tetris

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Ok so do you know routines and canned lines etc. are considered the training wheels in conversation, for those who dont know how hold a normal conversation?

I dont know if you should really be using them. Do you think you still need training wheels to talk to a girl?

The more you used canned shit the more you will gain confidence in the MATERIAL you are using, but you wont be gaining confidence in YOURSELF.

Its a slippery slope. And I hate seeing newcomers who read the stupid book called the game taking this approach. You will sound like a stupid robot, and its fake. You are not being yourself. You are not experiencing the moment and engaging in the interaction because you are just thinking of the next line to recite. And the list could go on...

Use your own initiative in conversation. gain confidence in YOURSELF from putting YOU out there. Talk about intersting things you can relate to. get some emotionally driven discussions going, get flirty, get talking sexy..... but not with these stupid routines. lay back on the negs - using them so often says to me that youre insecure that shes better than you.

Drop the canned stuff and you will improve as you go. Stick with the canned stuff and yes you might get results because of them, but you wont improve yourself.

Anyway you will realize this eventually yourself even if you dont take my advice now. Im just trying to help you nip it in the bud before it becomes a problem.

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Thank you very much for the perspective.
I do have quite a bit of confidence in all honesty, I can talk to her quite easily and I can be sexual around her. I haven't rehearsed anything to be honest. Only thing is, I'd like to try a few ESP tests on her, not for anything but like you said, I'd like to gain a bit of confidence in the routine.
haha I don't have oneitis for this girl and I wont be devastated if nothing happens, She will be the first girl I try to hook up with using this new found understanding of girls.
In all honesty, I've only negged her twice. I don't think she is better than me but she is brunette 9 and as i have stated in my earlier post, she does have a lot of guys after her.
I'm meeting up with her tonight, I'll be my confident self and go by there.

Thank you for your input

King Regards Tetris

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good luck my man! look forward to hearing more from you as a fellow aussie!

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I'ma be what I set out to be, without a doubt undoubtedly, and all those who look down on me I'm tearin down your balcony, no if ands or buts, don't try to ask him why or how can he