I am starting to develop my mid-game after the opener because this was one of my sticking points. When I see guys in the clubs and even Daygame guys have girls laugh and smiling I think its called buying temperature or vibing. How do I create the same response what things can I do and say. These guys seem to interact with ease and the girls seem genuinely interested in what they have to say. Maybe it is because they use all of their facial expressions to capture people and are always smiling I don’t know. What im trying to say is how can you keep and hold peoples attention and have them enjoying your company for an extended amount of time in clubs.

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"You must beleive that anything is possible before anything remotely impossible can happen"

If you are asking how you can make a person laugh, my best recommendation is to take improv classes and/or watch stand up comedies. Here are some basic things to help.

Tonality - you will notice many comedians get louder and/or quieter, talk faster and/or (than) slower. The point is you must use vocal variation to attract the target(s). You may emphasize points by stressing on key vowels or such, and thus allowing the word to stick more. If we were to say the same word, lets say PUA, we would both get different reactions, simply because how we say it.

Gestures - Using hand gestures attracts the target and this can actually help you by doing specific gestures and lead to kino

Eye Contact - By holding eye contact you gain the attention of the target(s). A comedian will hold various spots in the room with strong eye contact this allows the audience to feel he is talking to them specifically and such. Eye contact not broken strengthens the connection you two have.

I think that will help, as for the actual jokes, I make fun of situations, for example just as I was writing this (in class) I had a break and went to starbucks to get a coffee, there some barista who I met yesterday, same class every day, recognized me and said oh no I hope you dont cause trouble, I laughed and said I might I can't promise anything, now I am fairly small built, but confidence overpowers that, she said she had a bodu guard in the back, and I was like "Bigger than me, thats rare, I mean probable but rare, I'd like to see him." She then said she was bigger than me and my friend (who is big) and I was like "what are you putting in your coffee, there must be some steroid plot going on, I feel like I shouldn't drink anything here." I was simply making fun of myself, her, and this macho guy. He actually came out and was the manager of the store, not to big, and I said "Mate I think your doing something right, this girl is talking you up like crazy, you must be good -you know..." After that she was melting literally placed her head in her hand and melted...

So have fun, make fun of what they say, what is going on around you, and its always easy to make fun of other people around you. Don't lean on this, you will come off as an asshole, but if your at a club and theres this guy wearing something ridiculous, completely shit faced, make a point and say "Listen you seem fun, but promise me you wont get me that drunk by the end of the night" its cute and puts in place you are there to stay.

Take improv classes and possibly public communication classes if needed.

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

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be out of your head.
be having fun.
stop thinking about what would make her happy and laughing, instead think what would make you.
Be: unpredictable, spontaneous, don't be afraid to be silly, tease her, insult them (IN NOT OFFENSIVE WAY!)

in general - don't ask, TRY DIFFERENT THINGS AND GET FEEDBACK!
You need to try out different things instead of searching one answer, different girls - different answers (even though they are more alike than different);

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Keep improving every day...

The best way to know what works and doesn't is by trying out. I've been trying to crack jokes with girls for two years. Tested everything from soft and subtle to really agressive near insulting. Monitor their reactions and you'll know where the safe line is. Some accept agressive cocky dissing and other will respond better to light joking.
But try, try and try. Even when you're going full out and she's not responding to your humour maby the fifth joke will hook and will get you the reaction you love.

A big point is made in your question.

You can't "make" some else laugh. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CONTROL IS YOURSELF.

So what does that mean? It means control your own state. What state should you be in such that the person speaking to you will probably laugh and enjoy themselves? Well, obviously, you should be happy and laughing yourself.

If you're having fun, it spreads. Don't be reaction seeking. Don't tell a story looking to get a laugh. Just tell the story and have fun as you do it.

No disrespect but people are payed to make you laugh, so I have to disagree with that one fact, you can actually train yourself to be witty and clever, its the same way you become a better PUA doing it consistently and practicing. But nonetheless you are absolutely right, a new PUA i discovered maybe yesterday is SashaPUa this man is a comedian and what struck me out immediately is when he said Just think you are fucking around, just have a good time, and that is what I do and love to do, so yea Have fun with what you are doing and she will see you are having fun and join in with you.

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html

I'm a big fan of his, actually. But notice that many girls are completely uninterested in him. They don't think he's funny, they think he's creepy and weird. He can't make them think any differently. If he tried to make them laugh, after getting those vibes, he would seem needy and weird on top of the already bad impression.

He recognizes their bad impression, and tones himself down, acts a little more seriously. HE KNOWS THAT HE CAN'T MAKE THEM LAUGH.

He CAN mirror their behavior, while still remaining true to his own funny personality. This is being in control of only yourself. He never apologizes for his own behavior, or regrets that a girl had a certain reaction to him. He is who he is.

My point is not to be reaction seeking. If you are trying to make her laugh all the time, you will come off as very try-hard. Again, you can't "make" someone laugh, you can only be fun and energetic. Do you still disagree with me?

I understand where you are coming from entirely, but I am a stubborn mate, and want to be a comedian so I will have to disagree with you just to defend my honor as a comedian and my pride, but I hear where you are coming from, to be honest with Sasha I saw what you were talking about in one of his videos, he doesnt really force the humour, just adds it when need be, but to be honest I bet when he isnt on camera he has better lines just doesnt want it to be taken I guess???

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-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

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This is the wrong way of viewing humour. When talking to other people you're not performing stand-up comedy. You're not on stage cracking prefabricated jokes. Being witty is about having to ability to use your verbals and vocabulary in a way that it's different to what other people say.

There's a whole lot of ways to describe why things are percieved funny but the most basic explanation I've found is this one: "Things are funny because they are out of the ordinary."

Mate when I talk to people I actually sometimes pretend I am doing stand up, and with that said not prefabricated jokes, but things that I find relevant. Like the other day I met some new kids, and I found out they went to private school. So for 30 mins I was making fun of private school, then how shitty it is, how awesome it is, how since so little people most guys leave with the ability to talk to girls and cheat on every test, and then made fun of kids in the school who when touched by a guy yet alone a girl shiver. I have a narcissism problem, and do this a lot. I love making jokes, getting people to laugh, and being the center of attention. Things are funny because you find a commonality to them. You can relate to the humour. I can laugh at a pregnancy joke, because I have seen or heard information about it, but I can't ever understand the joke and laugh at it on a deeper level. Just like marriage, every married guy is laughing and saying so fucking true, im just laughing and saying this guy is hilarious, I know what hes talking about cause of hollywood. Its how you say things and relate to your audience.

To the OP just practice tone, how you say things. Slow down, get louder, get softer, pause, look into the target(s) eyes, smile. Make and set the mood and they will join your little fantasy world.

Every one of these PUA have other methods they use its a fact, no one wants to reveal every trick they have or else theres no reason to go to him you know what he has to offer. Anyways this post has gotten way to long, and I dont mean to troll or flame (I am not sure what these words actually mean but I think I am doing it) so I will just end this with: Have a good New Year!

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Best of Luck
-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html