So I have been going on a couple of "party dates" with this girl. We go as mutual friends I guess, but we still are together the entire night. We dance every chance we get and its all chill...

Until, and obviously there will be one hence the reason for a post, she messaged me saying what I did was uncool. Time for a story

So were at a party, and she tells me how this guy is stalking her ex cetera, so I dance with her to give him a hint. I then see some friends give em hugs, chat up a bit, and he pulls her away and dances, I laugh cause its funny, her facial expression was screaming please help me. So I guess I was a douche and said I think you robbed my dance, what are you doing. She then flings into me, and we grind again. All sounds chill w.e who cares.

A few moments ago she texted me saying what I did was fucked up. I immediately have no interest in this chick. But then she pulled out the LJBF card, and I want to learn what I did wrong. As I am writing this, I can see she used me as a friend to help her out, but how could I have built more attraction, the first real date we had I was on her all night almost k-closed but failed, did I blow my shot.

Thanks

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yo dude you did blow your shot. If you want to recover from this you need to freeze her out

But in your situation, at these parties you needed to isolate the girl and build comfort, attraction and tension. You can talk about anything really, but your body language and eye contact needs to be seductive. 60yoc is a great method about this.

You had comfort and mild attraction, many girls do not grind (hard) with "Just friends". So after dancing where you had the kino up high, you needed to isolate her by being dominant, leading her by the hand to another location. Build real attraction and create tension.

If you only want this girl for a friend, then build alot of comfort and then you can get her to set you up with all of her friends.

goodlcuk

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Yea I am freezing her out, she clearly is a bit crazy, like that came out of nowhere, wanting to grind with me, then bitches at me for telling some dude to piss off in words. So yea freeze out.

As for leading her away, I continuously did, played beer pong with her, grabbed her, and I escalated quick. Even when we weren't playing we were hugging I guess you can call it.

So with that said, you stated build attraction, should I have made it more sexual, I even stared into her eyes, which I hate doing, but I stared directly into her eyes for a while didnt even talk just listen. Or should I have asked her more questions about herself.

I think I even cock-blocked myself. I was getting really bored with her, and she was getting really close to my face, and I just pushed her away and told her to relax. lol

With that said I like your second option and make her a friend with benefit by benefiting me with some other friends So I should just txt her like I would any other chick right?

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LOL

i first recommend you freeze her out and try to hook up again. obviously she wanted to kiss you but you cockblocked yourself.

but if that doesnt work, just become friends with her and one day while hanging out just mention that she has cute friends. dont text her this, that is dumb. she will ask who and you wont answer with names. just be very vague. then at a party that you go to with her and other friends. you tell her that you want her to set you up with one of her cute friends. She will and you will hook up with the girl that she sets you up with unless you fail and fuck up something. I did this last year and it worked everytime

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Aight thanks for the tip, but I actually havent met her friends, I met this girl through a different girl I did the exact same thing to. I asked her to come to the party with like 5 girls, and she brought one, this chick, and the party blowed so the first time we met she pulled away this girl.

Hahaha talk about a rough start... and I did cock-block myself, but damn was she boring, there was a cuter girl I was trying to impress, and have a jealousy plot line with.

But I will somehow try and turn this around for both our benefits.

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