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seriously i ask a simple question about my friend turning into the biggest prick of man kind following this whole cock/arrogant shit from david deanglo.. but u people probably wouldnt understand anything about friendship, loyalty, or respect.. i have known this kid for over 10 yrs, and thats the combined age of the two posters on top
I'm assuming you guys are young (early 20s?). Not trying to knock you, it's just a thing more youngs guys tend to do or act. However, with that said, I had friend-girl older than me with stories of 40+ year old men buzzing her apt screaming from the outside, "I know your fucking someone!" When in reality, she just didn't want to go out with the guy again and was simply trying to get some sleep before work.
He's obviously pissed off about this break-up, but a negative attitude will not get you anywhere, and as you said, you go out with him and he acts like an ass and it reflects on you. Maybe if you put it into perspective it may help him. For example, a kid in my office (late 20s - oh, I'm 36 for reference) was all bummed out about this girl he was banging for three months screwed him over; long story short, she was a piece of trash, but he got some good sex for those months; however, he was SOO overly bummed about it; it was affecting his work. Around the same time, my wife actually left me! So I told him, "X, you need to snap out of it, I mean my wife, my relationship of the last 6 1/2 to almost 7 years is crumbling before my eyes and I'm in better shape right now then you." He started seeing it differently. My point, you gotta let him know it can be much worse.
Here's another thing you can do, but this is a little delicate in how you suggest it. I know you're not supposed to talk about yourself, but I think the reference will help as an example. I handled my divorce the best one could, but it wasn't without consquence. I wasn't going out yelling at random women, I just went into a sever depressive state as it got closer to the signing day; it was really BAD! I'm still going through it. I decided to see a Dr. about it (head Dr.) and she helped (ongoing), but she also suggested I start taking meds which kind of freaked me out - like I'm crazy or something. I'm still early in the process, but I'm already starting to see results and it should only get better (hopefully). If you're friend is this out of control and angry, I would suggest you talk him into talking to a professional, and you know what, perhaps being on some meds for a little while will help him - the chances of him being on them forever is slim to probably none. There is no reason why he should be that angry over something, when he looks back, was so trivial. Life is too short to dwell on BS. I hope your friend gets better, I can kind of empathize with him.
Best,
J