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Hmm yea I understand that doing this for solely validation is probably for the worst. This is more along the lines of revenge I suppose. In order to get over whatever has happened to me in the past, I forced myself to drop my previous beliefs/values in romance/relationships/etcetc. There was one point where I wavered and allowed myself to be hurt again. This time I've decided to stay strong and continue like this. It may seem sad to for the most part think of women objectively, but really it's done wonders for my mental health. But because of this, I can easily think about revenge without too much remorse . . .
I just wanted to protect myself.
Women are far more perceptive than us- they will know when they're dealing with a wounded guy. As I said before objectifying only puts a bandaide over it, it doesn't heal it.
Dude- you're going to get hurt no matter what you do. Simple fact of life. And to take it a step further- everyone you will ever get close to in life, parents, friends, girlfriends, wife, whoever, is going to hurt you at least once. You just have to figure out a better way of dealing with it, accept it, move on. No offense, but I don't think counseling would hurt either...just food for thought.