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Do people who get into PUA with insecurities ever really overcome them?
Yes some do, some other just have learnt to manage their insecurities to best effect, it's an internal battle, and lasting change does not come overnight.
I do not, by any means, presume to be a pua expert per se, but one thing PUA material has taught me is to start from a place of honesty and authenticity. And that's how I learned to manage some of my personal insecurities when dealing not only with women but also with people in any social interaction.
I'm an African and have being living in the UK for quite a while now so English appens to be my 3rd language. Sometimes I will chase this gurl and not quite succeed in getting her attention and blame it on my english. Oh maybe my english sucks, maybe it's because I'm African, but this was just BS...Cos I was blaming those gurls for what was my own responsibility. Deep down I knew that my English was hindering my social interation with the ladies, so it was up to me to improve on my communication skills. So it bowls down to Me Being Real with Who I am as person, accepting myself, embracing my core thus become in peace within self and taking responsibility when required.
I don't know your real story, I never been to the US, but I do Know one thing, women in general are the same regardless of their size, shape, color, age and so and so. Maybe the tall blonde women where you're from deep down in the south, prefer tall blonde men. It's their choice, their preference, their human right...Nothing wrong with that.
If you're complaining about never seen a succesful Indian guy with a tall blonde gurl what about midgets then??? Have you ever seen a midget with a tall blonde woman in your area???
It's obvious you're obsessed with blonde women...I respect that...But what are the real reason that prompt you to only chase blonde gurls??? Maybe you have genuine interest in them or maybe you want to impress your peers and siblings.
Or maybe deep down you don't think you're worthy being Indian, otherwise why would you mention that people are gonna guess that you're Indian despite having an olive skin??? So what is wrong with you being Indian???
Man if you don't appreciate who you really are, then don't feel bad when other people don't show you any sort of appreciation. Define your problem by being honest with you, yourself and deal with it. Trust Me, the moment you start to appreciate your uniqueness and display those positive aspects of your individuality even you're outlook in life will change. And maybe that blonde gurl will initiate a convo with you some day, Life is very tricky.
Very well said. In my opinion, he's obsessed with blonde for one solely reason. Validation. He's insecure about himself and his race. So he seeks validations from the satisfaction of wining over blonde women that are usually portrayed as trophies for men, in order to make him feel better about himself. Totally understandable. We all do this at some point. However, if you can't even accept and respect who you are, how would you expect women to do that?
Rather than focusing on things that he has control over (environment changes, improving other skills, social status, etc...), he's obsessed with things that he has NO control over such as his race, his skin, women's references. I can totally relate if he said "I LIKE CAUCASIAN women because they're open minded and how they were raised by western cultures". But no, he's always like "I want BLONDE". Why? Because their hair is awesome? He could have said I like girls with dimples. I could have lived with that. And the worst at all is that he's completely in denial and won't open to ideas that can help him.
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