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So Rye ive been reading tons of posts and watching tons of videos learning about the art of PU. Ive recently been dumped by my 21 year old GF, i am 28 and ive not had many probs finding girls in the past but: for 1 im having probs approching girls at the bar even with studied routines and a decent wit. I have been practicing on girls i work with but still having probs with live ones. Should i practice more or take the plunge. Secondly theres a girl who works with me who has a BF she doesnt have a good relationship with. She is hot and i think she could help take my mind off the GF, ive been chatty with her but no forward movement, im kind of thinking the C+F thing to coax her out and mabey cause her to forget her BF for the moment any help would be greatly aprecciated... im coming to you cause your the shizz!!
Haha, thanks for the good word man! I'll need a bit of clarification on a few points, but I do still have some advice for you to start with.
What exactly are the problems you are having approaching girls in bars? Are you having approach anxiety? Are you not showing enough confidence when you approach and they are rejecting you right off the bat? Are you running out of things to say? Or is it something else?
Good job with practicing on the girls you work with, but expand it so that you are practicing on everyone all the time. Being a PUA isn't about having an alternate personality where you suddenly have the ability to pick up girls. You need to be socially capable and to learn those skills, I run game on the 70 year old woman I'm installing a phone line for, the 50 year old woman behind the till at the convenience store, the guy at the hardware store, the 20 something girl at the grocery store, hell I even had a customer a couple days ago that had the cutest little girl (don't fucking think like that, that's sick) and I chatted with her about how cool her collection of hats was, how much I envied her for having one of those little tramplines. Get the drift? It's a lifestyle, being more communicative and able to get the results you desire from anyone in any walk of life, in any context.
For sure run game on the girl with the shitty BF. If she isn't in a committed relationship, then she's game. You can tell if a girl is committed by how she talks about a guy and how she reacts to your advances (pretty sure I talked about this previously in this thread, so look back). The key is to not talk about the BF, he doesn't matter, but create good rapport, fun exchanges between the two of you and self confidence.
As far as your comment on practicing more, or taking the plunge, I'm a little confused about what you mean. I would say that taking the plunge, is getting your ass out there, saying, "Fuck this anxiety, I'm gonna talk to people, I'm gonna have fun and that's what matters." You go out, you be social and you'll have fun. You'll realise that THIS is FUN and that is why we do it. The only way you will get better is by practicing, so take every opportunity presented you to get out and talk to new people. It will be bumpy to start, you'll make a lot of mistakes, but you will learn more from failure than you ever will from success and so learn from those mistakes, but don't dwell on them. Be positive, because it takes time.
I've been seriously committed to this for about 6 months now and I'm finally getting the results I want. Doesn't matter who you are, this takes time.