I'm not saying she has to win, I'm just saying if you nag her about this, it could have less desirable side effects. You've tried the empathy card "How would you feel if a girl slept over" and she didn't see anything wrong with that, so this tells me that she genuinely feels no harm is done. It's a tough one. You can try one other thing, tell her it's not that you don't trust her, but it's a principle thing for you and the guys are always welcome to sleep on the floor. Well I've run out of ideas. Does she have a couch? I assume she doesn't, if she does, it makes the whole situation different.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

I think you read the situation perfectly. She genuinely doesn't see it as an issue, and wouldn't mind if I were to do the same. Which I never would obviously, I don't dig double standards.

She does have a couch... more like a padded chair really. Very small. In fact I know that she might have an extra mattress somewhere. I told her they can stay, they must just sleep somewhere else not in her bed. She still doesn't get it. She thinks I'm being jealous or something most likely. Although in the three months we've known each other a whole lot, and I know that she hasn't had someone stay over.
And it's unlikely that they will, seeing as she's lost interest in that crowd, she prefers being with me.
I have a good feeling that she most likely wont let someone sleep over like that lightly again. I might just once again be trying to make her vocalize something she isn't planning on doing, like cheating. the major difference being, she's against cheating, and not against sharing a bed with a guy.

I think I've decided.

I'm going to say that this is the last time she's going to hear about it, that I don't like it at all. I don't approve. I appreciate if she wouldn't do it. it's not that I'm jealous, I just see it as a matter of principal. In the end, I can't tell her what to do, just like she can't tell me what to do. I trust her, and believe that there's nothing sexual. but she must try understand my side, as I have tried to understand her side.

let her draw what ever conclusion she wants from that. Fair enough in my opinion.

Well, I wish the best of luck to you....I never claimed she WAS cheating....

I was only saying that the sleeping with other guys thing is BS. Whether it is sex or "emotional sex cuddling," it is BS. I don't think it is a coincidence that she hasn't done it since she has been with you, which is a good thing, but don't buy her BS that it means nothing. And, we all know, an affair for a woman, WHEN it DOES happen, is more about emotions than physical most of the time....if she DOES start sleeping with "friends" again I would say she has gotten what she wanted from you and is moving on....Again, you guys are too misogynistic for me...lol

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Thanks man.

An affair is mostly about emotions, which girls tend to be more susceptible to. So If we were to have a fight, and she was at party and got drunk and things were to happen. Solution is simple. tell her you hope the shitty fuck was worth it and move on.

I'm tired of multiple relationships, it's gotten boring.

If she's gotten what she wants from me and moves on, no problem seeing as I would do just the same thing.

I'm bored of the whole thing, and over it. I'll say my piece, and move with the motions from there. If things like this keep adding up, and I'm having less fun than more. Things can end sweetly before they have to get to cheating.

thanks for the advice guys (and girl)!

Good luck!

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

LOL.

A girl saying "I sleep in bed with other guys, but nothing happens, but I can't guarantee nothing will, but don't worry about it"

is pretty much equivalent to...

Me saying (as a former coke addict, mind you) "I like to keep mirrors all over my apartment, covered in lines of coke, but I don't snort it, but I can't guarantee I won't, but don't worry about it"

really?

It's not reasonable.

I'm with Captain Morgan on this one.

It's not about "right and wrong", it's about judgment. If a girl doesn't have "the sound judgment" to not be in a bed with other guys while I am exclusively dating her, well then, I wouldn't exclusively date her.

To the OP, you need to find other girls to sleep in your bed so you can do nothing with them. Don't forget to send her pictures of you in bed doing nothing with these girls.

I sleep in the buff, the thought of adding that to this situation, makes me laugh even more.....

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

If she said she will be faithful when fully aware(no drugs or anything like that) then you should trust her. I have slept with girls who had boyfriends when I was still an AFC, the boyfriends might get pissed occasionally but sleeping with someone isn't bad at all. So if she sleeps with another guy and she already promised not to have sex with them, then you are set.

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Social interactions and fun, that's why I'm here.

The Mack has spoken....so it is written, so let it be done!lol

Your analogies make it simple...love it!

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