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I just made a major topic about curing oneitis in the PUA lounge.
here is the link:
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Oneitis is something which holds you from succes, that's why it's highly advisable to get over oneitis.
Go check my post about curing oneitis, it will surely help.
I'm blown away by the link you sent me. Thanks so much. There is just one problem to it all and that is that I am gonna have to see her everyday. She hangs out with my social group which contains some of the best friends I ever have currently. I don't wanna cut ties with them. There has to be a way where I can get over her and still be around her. Should I just tell her how I feel? I feel that might be a bit weird and uncomfortable.
I think the answer is already in your post: you're too dependable on her and her friends. So the easiest thing to say is: find new friends to hang around with so that you don't have to be with her everytime.
But again, I understand that it is easier said then done.
Of what I read, I have the impression that you're still in high school, am I right? Otherwise you wouldn't see her everyday. Telling her that you like her is a big social risk there, because girls talk. But as you might know, life is full of risks, and sometimes to you have to take risks to get there.
After I broke up with my ex, I stayed best friends for 4 months. During vacation, things happened, and I took a risk. In 3 weeks, we changed from best friends to having zero contact, because I broke it.
So go to her, make a move or declare your feelings. If she says the four most destructive words known to men "Let's just be friends", then say her politely that you can't live with that. Because for you, it's everything or nothing. Say her that you always want to be number one and you can't live thus as a number two, and that you are going to take distance from her. You feel nothing for just being friends.
You know what the good thing is about this? It means that YOU ARE IN CONTROL! Not her, but you. And that's what a man defines: a man should always be in control. It's you who have the choice, and who makes the decision. And if you do so, it shows her that you have a lot of balls. And coincidently, Women LOVE balls.
Chances exists that she will be trying to get you back. She will try to win you over again. But be cautious. Only allow her back in your life if she wants you in a relationship. If she tries to win you over to be her best friend again, then be hard and don't accept it.
If you take distance from her, then just have a lot of good time with your bro's. You should have at least a few bro's who are neutral in this situation and with whom you can do fun things. If your friends are as good as you described, they will understand that you're taking distance from her and they will continue to support you. Flirt with also more different women. You will see then that she actualy is not as special as you first thought. And if you are having fun and if you are flirting with different girls, she will notice.