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I agree with Heavy, I have a feeling your gut is already telling you what is mentioned above. Follow your gut it rarely lies!
Good Luck Bro...Peace!
I too agree with heavy however she has asked that what happened be forgotten so I can't directly follow his advice unless it happens again. GKS's advice is pretty good.
It's a bit naive to just simply forget something happened. Obviously she's dealing with some stuff, whatever that may be, and its affecting her relationship with you.
I mean she asked me to forget that she cried and we continue like it never happened. Me randomly messaging her "I think you need time to figure out what you want" would just piss her off.
So burying your heads in the sand is the best action. Really??? I don't know about you, but if I had a leaky pipe in my kitchen I could ignore it all I want, but at some point I'll notice water seeping into other rooms of the house.
We parted on good, kissing, hand playing terms, I don't want to remind her of her own sadness. Don't get me wrong I'm not going to become all needy and such and if it does happen again I will simply tell her that.
She validated your concerns in the moment, showing you behavior that you wanted to see (e.g., kissing, hand playing). At the end of the day this is all lip service, superficial behavior masking her issues - all this was done for your own reassurance, meanwhile its almost certain she's still wrestling with whatever issues she has. In short, she gave you what she knew you wanted in the moment to simply keep you temporarily contented.
I think what i'l do is message her when I get back on monday saying "Hows things (neggy nickname here) , what is your schedule like for this week gorgeous?" then she either responds positively and we meetup. If she responds negatively then I know whats going down and I can move on.
It sounds as though you're seeing only what you want to see. Now you're desperately attempting to act as though things were as they were before. Concerning yourself with her approval, seeking her affection...the cycle continues and unfortunately each time it does, you get hooked in more deeply and it only becomes harder and harder to climb out.