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You guys seem to have missed the point I touched on and Ezo went into indepth, kudos btw Ezo. The point of a shit test is to gauge your reaction, and if you try to use a clever response it just ends up looking like you are trying to impress her with your wit.
Thanks DJ_Z
Exactly, good to know that someone actually got it.
Let me clarify my message. Being a player is something many people will find dodgy and "wrong" but they cant really say why it would be wrong. It is just something that society today has loosely taught you. Its a bit shameful and it is a but undefined, what is a player? If you just look good, you can be a player or you could just sleep around to the same extent without being a player. Nobody really knows what a player is, just that it is bad in some undefined way. It is just like a slut, that is wrong too, but there is no reason for thinking that.
So basically, her initial thought is that a player is a bad guy. If you are a player, you are a bad guy. But she has been talking to you and you dont seem like a bad guy. Maybe you are a good player, wait, does not compute. Is there such a thing, a good guy and a player in the same body? See, she isnt sure.
Basically it all comes down to frame wars.
If you enter her world, she is setting the rules. In her world, she is in control and she has decided that players are bad. Hopefully that is different in your world. In your world, the player is not a bad guy, it is a guy caring about his romantic life. And caring enough to study pickup. If she enters your world, your rules apply and she will accept the fact that a player can also be a good guy.
Now if your world also says that the player is a bad guy, man you gotta work on your inner game. Desperately.
About entering other peoples worlds. This is frame wars, who is the dominant one? If you start making excuses, or witty remarks or avoid the question, then it becomes dodgy. You are losing ground, her world takes over yours. Basically you are avoiding the question which means that she is right, if there is nothing wrong with being a player, why would you wanna avoid the question? You have successfully entered her world and she has won the dominant part or the conversation. She is dominant and you are submissive.
Now any PUA would tell you that being the alpha male is the most important part of any game you play. And it is. If you let her take over your frame, you have just admitted not being the alpha male. She is alpha, she is in control.
Never ever make excuses for who you are or what you are. If you are making excuses, you are saying that "I know this is wrong and bad and sadly I am one of those". Why would you be one if you dont like it? It shows that you arent in control even over your own self. Not an attractive trait!
So basically, there is much to win and lose when answering the question "are you a player". It is a shit test as DJ_Z says. It asks you more questions than you think.
Are you an alpha or beta male?
Are you in control of yourself?
Do you have balls?
Whose frame is stronger, yours or hers?
Are you strong enough to take her bullshit?
Do you take responsibility for your actions or are you trying to wiggle your way out of a bad situation?
You see, wit and semantics can never ever replace having balls.
CHAT
