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Bottom line here's the question... I invite girls to go have a drink somewhere or get a smoothie... something I know wont be very expensive because I go on a lot of dates and cant afford to spend too much money each time. The problem is when we get there they're hungry and want to order food. How do I avoid having to buy meals on the 1st date. I dont mind doing it later on after we've gone to the next level but I cant afford to buy every girl a meal on the 1st date.
When you set the logistics, if you want to be cost effective, you can plan according, you could screen girls out to just have a date at your house, or her house (this really reduces your volume down, but these are very easy dates). You can also when asking a girl out for drinks, go for 9pm or later so it is passed dinner time.
You can also use her asking for food to further move logistics, I know I personally almost always have, lean grd chicken, lean grd turkey, salad, yams, brussle sprouts and steaks in my fridge/freezer unless I've been lazy with shopping. I keep a bottle of white wine on hand and have whiskey/scotch/cognac in the liquor cabinet. If you're having drinks you could tell her you planned to make yourself dinner at home after the date and she is welcome to come home with you so you can cook her a bite to eat. Whip up the steaks, mix up a caesar salad and pour her a glass of wine, turn off the lights and light some candles up.
Put yourself in a good position. Paying for a girl is not the end of the world, if you're asking her out on the date it is good etiquette to pay. No one wants to feel like their date is cheap or stingy, because it makes them feel like they are not worth it, at the same time you can avoid them feeling like they are not worth it by just planning your dates better so that they lead to something but don't cost you money.