Last Saturday I went out dancing alone at an artsy/hipster club. Going out dancing alone is not difficult for me because I generally love music and I am a decent (but not great) dancer, so it's easy for me to not look or feel to awkward.

However, at this club I had the same thing happen to me 3 times in one hour. Basically, the scenario was this... I look for a group of girls to dance by, I move over and start dancing next to them, not trying to be too obvious about seeing their reaction. One of the girls will notice me (HB7.5-8.5), and look me up and down, I acknowledge the look by looking them right in the eye, then they approach me. We have small banter/dance, then they leave. I keep dancing by myself, waiting for further signs... but they never come. Here's the exact scenario:

Girl #1: She approaches me and says "I really like your sweater", touches my hand. I smile and say "Thank you," she dances in my direction, we dance together for a minute at most, then soon forgets about and goes back to her friends.

Girl #2: Approaches me and says "Hi my name is ____, and her name is _____" (motioning toward cute friend) "but she is shy." She then engages me in dancing, looking at me, dancing close, but soon returns to her friend and forgets about me. I keep dancing by myself for a few minutes until I see her yawn, at which point I approach her, motion toward her hand, and say "no yawning, this is a party, let's dance" She recoils, I feel rejected, and eject.

Girl #3: I am dancing by myself, and she looks me up and down, I look her in the eyes, and she starts dancing with me. Twirling around, turning her back to me, etc.. I try for some kino and moves a little further away, but continues to dance with me. She moves away and returns several times, then poof returns to dancing with her friends and forgets about me.

It seems like with such stronger openers from the girls, I should be able to at least get a conversation, or number close, but nothing. Once the girls move back to their friends, it's like they don't even see me.

Any ideas?

Try approaching some women outside of the dance floor, and bringing them to it.

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Perhaps, though I have found that to be a little high pressure. That's almost a removal/escalation tactic because the girl would be with her friends, and you would have to isolate her from them and the protection they provide her. I am trying to figure out what I am doing wrong in turning IOIs into something more. In order to get a girl to come to the dance floor with me, I would be turning an IOI into a conversation, then into dancing.

Here I am trying the reverse, turning a dancing IOI into a conversation, #close, etc..

Try making a move on her, like spin her around when she is dancing then hook up with her. I do that and it generally works, or even take her by the hand and lead her to a quite place to game her.

You cant expect a girl to just hand you their number unless your brad pitt or fucking gorgeous just like that, be a man and "bust a move"

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She's not going to talk to you with the loud dance music. A great way to isolate FROM the dance floor is to have her come get a drink with you.

Most times girls will hint at that because they get too hot after dancing for a while.

Dancing is a better way to escalate SEXUALLY, not so much socially. If you want to have a "real connection," try doing it when you wake up next to her, or anywhere but the dance floor.

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Your doing a good job with opening them up with dancing.

BUT!
Talk to them!

After you get them dancing use more openers and then get her away from the dance floor.

Getting them dancing IS your opener. You don't need to open someone once you've opened...?

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