I decided to freeze out this girl b/c she flaked. So, I didn't text her for 2 weeks and when I saw her again, I acted normal but not interested in her and flirted with this other girl hardcore. Then, About 5-6 days later I get this text message. Her goes the conversation.

HB: Is everything okay between us?

ME: lol. I thought so. Why? Were you the one who stole my sandwich from the refrigerator? Cause if you did, we definitely have problems.

HB: I dunno, just checking. Haha and no, I didn't steal your sandwich. You should be proud of me, I finished my reading before class!

ME: Good, I didn't take you for a thief. We should meet up for a study session this week. What's a good time for you?

HB: pretty much anytime

ME: cool. time and place

HB: Yep that works for me : )



What you guys think? Is this what a successful freeze should look like?

that is perfect guy. good job. you got her interested in you, while showing little to no interest in her.

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Hey look at that!
What?
That! You dont see it?
No not really....
Oh come on theres nothing i just wanted to talk to you. Whats your name?

Thank you buddy. I just had an epiphany. I've had many situations where it's the girls frame that there is a problem and I'm trying to play it cool and in the end they win. It's like they believe it so much they have to play out a fight. Making up a fun argument as opposed to walking on egg shells might just work out. No, I know it will. I'm using this shit on my baby moms for sure.

Thanks guys.

i did this the other day. she didnt even come talk to me or anything. she just sees me across the hall then thats it. no nothing what so ever. should i just drop the girl? she has a huge rag btw

You shouldn't freeze a girl out, you should stop talking to her altogether, unless she reciprocates. Freezing out shouldn't be a tactic to get a girl interested in you. You should not be interested in women who flake out and waste your time. You don't need people like that in your life. Fuck that. Move on.

And I don't know what a huge rag is.

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I think you bitched out quite a bit here. This girl flaked on you. That should be not cool. Refer to my post above on how I view freeze outs.

If she asked me if everything was ok with us, well it wouldn't be. If it was, we'd still be talking. I would've given her an answer like "Didn't really put much thought into it. Why?" and left it at that, instead of diverting to flirty fluff talk.

Basically, I am going to let her know that she really doesn't mean that much to me, so that completely unacceptable thing she did to me didn't affect my life so much, while guilt tripping her at the same time.

Sometimes they will try to make it seem like you're just being a dick, but you're not. She wasted your time. You had plans. She flaked. You could've made other plans instead but you allotted that time for her. Make sure you maintain your frame of, anything to say now about it is justified, and what she did was lame.

She will then apologize and make it up to you...in bed.

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I agree as long as anyone trying this understands not to show any anger or frustration. Also, I've been turned down and flaked time after time by the same girl, kept my cool, forgave her, changed the subject ect. Only to one day get a text saying "I want to fuck you" Which was quite the shock. Some... most women have issues with sex and following through, sometimes getting flakes is because she knows she is powerless around a guy with a strong frame and it scares the shit out of her.