Quote:
ex. close
me: 'We should meet for coffee sometime, are you free XXXX'
she: "hmmmmm' hesitantly
me: 'Just coffee nothing big. If we click we can always do something after.'
her: '.........'
me: Well...maybe another time then' *leave
#2
'This is a lot of fun, but I'd like to meet up sometime. I think we'd have fun together'
'Yea me too'
'Whats your number?'
'You move fast!!!'
'Huh? Are you not comfortable with me?'
'Why do some guys move soo fast???'
Sorry to say, but both of these are atrocious. Don't use a "Let's have coffee and get married if we like each other" line, nor should you justify hanging out ("I think we are a match made in heaven") or ask her to explain a rejection ("do you think I'm a creepy mass murderer"). Some innocuous alternatives would be:
"You seem nice/funny/fun, maybe I'll let you hang out with me again" (handing her your phone)
"Since you asked so nicely, I might teach you how to fly a space ship" (this presumes she asked you to fly a spaceship before. Substitute something from your conversation instead).
Generally, NEVER bring up a specific meet-up, let alone a date, in your #c. Better yet, don't #c unless you absolutely have to and are confident that you will get somewhere next time. Chances are you won't, since I assume you ran night game when she was out drinking and to have fun/get laid. Why would you do better when she's sober and not in a party mood?
Even more generally, nothing in PU is uncontrollable. And if you tell yourself that it is, you prevent yourself from controlling it! Okay, maybe on occasion, something will go down that kills your game without fault of your own. But those are freak occurrences, not something about PU you fundamentally.