Hi guys,

When I was travelling through Asia I met several girls and hooked up with them. Still there were a few situations where I still don't know what went wrong. Pls have a look and help me improve my game with your suggestions.

girl 1
I met a girl at a party in Cambodia, where we both are introducees. We didn't know anyone of this party and we were both bored. Besides she is Dutch, like me. This fact helped me a lot creating attraction/comfort. During this party we sneaked out together to go to the nightmarket [IOI].

Afterwards we went to a club and we danced very closely [IOI]. After a while, I decided to kiss her and she kissed me back. That night we were hugging and kissing and holding hands. That night she dropped me and my hotel and we agreed to have dinner the day after [mistake: I should have ask her in].

Next day
The day after, I texted her. But received no response. So I called her. [mistake: showing too much interest]. We did meet, but there was less attraction as yesterday. I asked her if she wanted to see my hotelroom, and she agreed. In the hotelroom, we kissed but we didn't have sex because she was tired. I let her sleep and didn't make a move anymore.

The third day
The third day we met again and went to a bar. We didn't hold hands or kissed. After the bar, we went to my hotel automatically. We watched TV and kissed. But then I tried to undress her, she said.:"I don't feel like to have sex tonight and I don't like you that way. I do like you, but normally I like other types'. I told her I agree with her. After this day, the following three days we hung out in the eveneing and she slept in my bed wiht now sex.

What went wrong?[/b]

To put it bluntly you are a pussy. Its not that she didnt like you or your "type" its the fact that you didnt do it the first night, the second night you should have taken her into your bedroom, and fucked her, and then the third night she lost attraction. You even admitted to it


"I don't feel like to have sex tonight and I don't like you that way. I do like you, but normally I like other types'. I told her I agree with her.


WDF.... Why would you ever say that. You should have been like, fuck I would hate myself to, I make girls orgasm for hrs, its probably the best time of their lives but then they cant walk afterwards. So we going to have sex or should I go find someone else who can handle me.

Seriously why are you being a little bitch. Sorry mate, you seem like a good person, prob awesome if you travel I respect that. But be a man, take what you want, go after what you want.

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-Raphael

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Entourages makes a good argument... but ill try and soften his intent lol. I feel u understand game to a degree... but u have not masted it yet. An example is when u put (IOI) next to the things you guys did like dancing... going to get drinks... ect. This doesnt exactly mean she is interested in you... it could mean she has no one else to hang out with and just wants to go out with someone instead of being alone while traveling. An IOI is when she starts asking u questions about yourself... or qualifying herself to you... those are IOIS. But Thats ok... every interaction is a learning experience... not a failure. Learn from this one. It seems to me that when she came over to your hotel u didnt arouse her enough to have sex with you. And u were the one wanting to have it... not her. The key to getting laid is to always be the one OBJECTING to having it. People want what they cant have.... esp. GIRLS! So when u invite her back say... im not going to sleep with you tonight... dont get any ideas... we r just gonna hang out and watch this cool movie. Then u start to arouse her.... aka 4 play and kissing her... and when its starting to get heavy you pull back and say "babe this is going 2 fast... I mean i just met you". Now i understand how this sounds. your prob like umm wtf we were just making out and now im telling her to stop?! and my answer is YES. Why? bc it makes u look like u dont want to have sex with her... or that u DONT NEED to have sex with her. So you continue watching your movie... and then a few mins later start the kissing again. For those few mins she is going to be WANTING you to start kissing her again. It felt good to her... and now you took it away?! She will be confused... but wanting you so much more. Then you can escalate further and she will most likly not object. But lets say she does... and shes like im not sure... what do you do now? easy. You say i kno we totally shouldnt be doing this.... and the continue. If she still objects and says NO. then u stop. Freeze her out.... and try again. No never really means no unless u accept it.

Hope this helps!
Duke

Thank you both for your comments.

@Entourage: you are right mate, thanks for waking me up!
@Duke: thanks for your explanation. It makes it more clear for me.

Now with this information, and looking back I see what went wrong.

It was 'on' at the first night we kissed in the club. She brought me home, I think this is already a sign that I should have made the next move. But I chickened out.

The second date and the third date, I actually already knew the 'sparkle' was gone.

The third date when she was in my hotelroom and I was undressing her, I did nothing to tease/arouse her like you have mentioned Duke. I totally forgot this step to arouse her.

In the end, I damaged this set. Now with your comments, it has become a learningful set

Yea no worries, sorry for being blunt, but sometimes you need that to "wake up"

I hope you work out your game and such. Duke is 150% correct on the whole sometimes more is less aspect. When I was hooking up earlier, I always pull away first, same with everything, the rule applies to thing that minute, you pull she tugs and wants more... you got this buddy!

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-Raphael

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I agree with what Entourage said, he took the words right out of my mouth. anyways what happened to girl numba 2?

haha, the girl number 2 was a waitress in the restaurant where I had dinner three days in a row (food was good and cheap )

Girl #2
One night when I had dinner she asked me and my friends what we where doing that night. I didn't respond since I was not interested, but my friends said that we were going out and that she should join us.

So she joined us clubbing, I didn't even dance with her. My friends were pushing her into my direction. Afterwards my friends took a cab, and I took a cab with her. During the ride, she said she wanted to watch TV at my place but no more than that. I said no, but she still came with me.

Hotel
We watched TV and teased a bit. Then she changed and wanted to wear my shirt and my boxer. So lying on bed, I wanted to take off her underwear (actually mine ), but she said no. Later I tried again, and she said no.

Since I was not very interested in her, I didn't push and slept.

The day after she kept texting me, wanted to add me of FB, I ignored her.

Well first off your an idiot its called foreplay, you dont just stick your head in a lions mouth, you gotta do the steps prior to it.

Der der der...

Seriously buddy, good job on getting in these positions you must be chiseled from godly granite cause your clueless sometimes.

Make out with her, have some fun, foreplay, then you can finger, than eat her out, than you fuck her. This works enough said.

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Best of Luck
-Raphael

Aspiring Artist

Read the adventures I take as I discover my way towards becoming a mPUA or a dPUA (decent PUA) including completing the StyleChallenge ---> raphaels-journel-vt119594.html