I had a huge problem with AA and it took me a long while to get to where I was the other day. I still got nervous but could deal with the discomfort. The whole premise was "Even if they have no interest, there is very little they can say that can actually hurt me." Then this happened. I was sarging online and wrote to a hb8 because she seemed cool and said something in her profile that said she liked people who are amazing and don't even know it (me maybe?lol) so I wrote her.

ME: Hey, I'm new on this site but I havent gotten too many responses. Maybe you can tell me how amazing I am. lol

hb8:Maybe you should take not getting responses as a hint as to how amazing YOU ARE NOT!

Me: WTF? Why would you say that to me? I was only trying to talk to you?

Hb8: Yeah, well you aren't goodlooking and you should stick to girls in your own league but I bet you don't even give girls in your league the time of day. You go after girls that are way out of your league and would never date an average looking loser like you. You're Pathetic! Stop going after girls out of your league! Why would someone like you even think that I would even think twice about you?

She got me right where it hurts. She killed my self-confidence, my self-esteem and my self-image. I've never been called ugly before, in fact I've always been considered cute but I've always had a negative self-image that I've worked very hard to turn around and this girl put doubt in my mind. I guess the thing is, although this was online, sometimes there is reason to have AA. I've gotten past her tirade for the most part, but it sits in the back of my mind with every approach...

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Easier said than done but forget her. I mean she doesn't know you at all, she doesn't know anything about you whatsoever. You could have been the best thing to cross her path in years but she wouldn't even know it. She is making assumptions about you based on assumptions she's made about countless other guys making a similar approach. Get out there, sarge and forget about this idiot. I'll be honest and say that I've never sarged before (all that will change by next week) but since reading all this stuff I've personally felt more confident in general, in work more than anywhere though. I used to get the piss taken out of me for being who I am by guys and girls there because I lacked selfconfidence, but since learning about the game and the people who have overcome tremendous struggles to become successful PUAs, I have found more selfconfidence and am already improving my life before having even been out on a proper sarge. She may say "oh you aren't good looking and you are going after girls way out of your league" etc but what would you rather, trying for the girls out of your league and succeeding once in a while or settling for whatever you can get and being dissapointed with yourself everytime.
To each his own but that's kinda how I see it.

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listen dude, I can sit here and insult you a thousand times worse than she did. Why would you care? I'm just some random person sitting behind a computer...its just the internet so who the fuck cares? look, you can either post a flattering pic of yourself and get some feel good affirmation from us , and we can, with no homos abounding, tell you how amazing you are to make up for some random bitch's rejection of you ...or you can grow some balls. >:)

no seriously if it helps post a pic and we will honestly rate you...but I personally will also think you are a pussy ... but who cares what I think, remember? Maybe it is in fact a sign of non-pussyness...

If you want a why, it's probably because you took offense to it right off, she had the upper hand.

Take a metaphor of a fisherman for example. If some giant, gorgeous fish were to snap his line and get away, he'll be angry. But he has another hook in his little box, and there's a million more fish to catch.

Don't trip dude, if you're gonna have the mind to do the PUA thing, you can't break down so easily.

I would be happy to post a pic of myself but I don't have any that are even close to being as small as 100x100. It rejects every one i've tried to post on here. If I were to assess my own looks, I would say I am nicelooking and well kept but not a guy girls would be like Oh my god! He is SOOO Fucking HOTT!! However, I have actually had girls and gay guys tell me I was gorgeous and that I could get any girl I want. I was also a Model twice. Once when I was a child, 8-10 and again when I was 25 for a short time before a car accident scarred up my torso and back way too much among other things...My guess is though, I'm goodlooking, not great looking like I said but I'll try to post a pic up again

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Ok, I emailed this link to myself from myspace. if you click on it you should be able to see my pic. http://collect.myspace.com/reloc.cfm?c= ... 833497&id=

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nope, profiles private
i didnt read everyhting but i got most of it. dude, dont trip over that bitch at all. who the fuck is she? she isnt really in another league, you just didnt DHV her. so she thinks shes all high and mighty because she kind of tore you down like that. but you DLV'd yourself in the first sentence when you said your not getting responses. so thats telling her no other girls want to talk to you either.

The proper response is something along these lines:

"Your looks had nothing to do with me messaging you, I'm just trying to meet/talk to people. But your attitude says more than you can know. YOu're right, you are out of my league.... I don't date shallow narcissistic bitches."

I made that profile private on advice from here lol. I don't see why that would prevent you from seeing a pic that you have the link for. sigh...I guess I'll un-private it.

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Naw dude, just send us the url for the picture itself. Right click, click "copy image location" or whatever similar and post that.

Haha, I have to say, points to her because that's a hilarious response.

Your problem was framing, you took it personally. You started with a DLV too.

Seriosuly, I would have responded to that with something appreciating the joke, it was clever. That being said, you need to not bother with people like this, if someone gets to you, forget them.

if you hadn't said the thing about not getting reponses, it would have been a whole other conversation.

Nah, she was a sadistic bitch for real. I made my profile not private so if you click on the link I put on my previous reply, you should be able to see my pics on myspace.

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Holy crap. This girl is either a major bitch and/or a major insecure tester.

If you responded with "Wow, you're funny. I don't know who your boyfriend is but he is NOT spanking you hard enough."

Everything she talked about was complete shit. "Good looking" "Leagues"
Everything a girl doesn't give a shit about.
It was a frame test or she's living a life of heavy social rules.

Anyone correct me if I'm wrong.

man i would have negged her like no tommorow...give that shit right back to her...if it was in a face to face situation then yea i would have been crushed myself...last night for instance there was this hb9 grinding with a chair and i leaned over and said hmm looks like that chair isnt into you all that much..and then out of no were she put her hand in my face and said its not ne thing you could get either lmao..i was so lost for words...