Hey guys,

I'm from Boston and I've been msging HB's on POF and I took my best pics of me flexing in front of my mirror and I'm in decent shape (ok maybe not some jacked up beast yet, but reasonably ripped) and I've been sending HB's messages but as soon as I ask for their digits they stop replying ....


Serioiusly I already spammed 100's of HBS this month but when it comes time to #close they flake like crazy, really why don't they want to go out, not like I'm so ugly wt#f is going on ???

Are there like some army of ripped up immigrants dudes from Brazil that moved into Boston that's spamming up all the HB's so if you don't have the steroid physique you don't even get a number from the average looking HB?

I don't want to do that crap because I don't want to mess up my endocrine system, but it seems to be the only option if I want my DNA to live on I need to have a sex with HB really soon because I'm so sick of being single this is making me crazy ...

I think you already know the answer man, but let's say a fat ass chick with kids, acne, and a fucked up arm messages you and asks for your number? You wouldn't reply would you? Of course not, but I'm not saying that your ugly or anything is wrong with you. What I'm saying is your either A. Not attracted to the person/Not interested in them. 2. You're not building up enough comfort and your scaring her off. Basically some of them are just not interested in you and it's not something you should take personal. The rest are just seeing you as a needy person and that doesn't preheat the oven man.

I don't consider an in shape educated reasonable attractive male to be an equivalent of a fat acned HB with kids

You didn't actually comprehend the situation behind the example... Basically you're coming off needy, you're not building any comfort with these women, and above all else you're just another guy hitting on them. You've done nothing to spark their interest in you, nor have you distinguished yourself from every other guy on the site.

So let me re-quote this for you:
Beyond that your actually letting not having sex make you so desperate that I can smell it on you and if I can smell it you can damn well guarantee a women will pick up on that shit from word one. Beyond that your placing so much weight on how you look, but I don't know if you understand that looks don't actually matter.

Yes, A woman has to be attracted to you on some level, but guess what. Their is more than one level. Physical/Emotional. You don't need to be a ripped, buff, super good looking, rich man to get a phone number/laid. You just need to connect with her, build comfort, and above all else treat her like a person and not a walking vagina that your so desperate to put your dick inside of.

Unless your pretty shredded I don't know I'd have shirtless flexing pictures. But besides that either you're not reasonably attractive like you claim, or you're boring them. I just got a HB7.5's number in 5 messages, about 30 minutes. Just playful banter works well, be witty, and avoid boring questions. It's not all about how you look, I'm reasonably attractive, but not that great looking of a guy. Most women don't even like meatheads. Just come across as playful, and charming. Browse these forums for funny things to say. I found lots of lines I sometimes incorporate. I've gotten 4 or 5 numbers this week, and my area doesn't exactly have a thriving ecosystem.

But for sure you need to get over the physical thing, like I said a lot of women really don't like meatheads, so as long as your in decent shape and you don't have a facial deformity game the fuck out of them.

LOL. OP post your POF threads. We'd like to laugh...I mean give some constructive feedback at what's going wrong.

If you were giving off this same vibe when you talked them, I have no doubts they will flake. It reeks desperation and frustration. Women flake when you don't build enough comfort, there are two effective ways to do this: either create a deep connection with them or spike enough of their interest and curiosity.

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Here's a freebie: stop referring to them as HBs and bitches.

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Here's a woman's POV - lose the shirtless flexing pics. This is NOT what attracts women.

So you've admitting to spamming HB's and wonder why women - real women with lives and personalities beyond their photos - don't want to meet you.

Women are happy to get attention - little ego boosts - from guys like you, but they don't want to go out with you. You're clearly all about you and not about them.

Remember, it's not just the pics you post or the words you write - it's the energy you give out. Change your attitude and you'll attract women in an authentic way that won't make them "flake".

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