Beschatten,
Can you remember a time when you had an epiphany that made you reflect on your entire life in a whole new way? For example, when I first learned about the S&R Value thing, I understood all of the encounters I've had with girls in the past in a whole new way. When I first learned that confident alpha males were more attractive than their less assertive counter-parts because of legitimate evolutionary reasons, I shat bricks as I saw every human being I knew, including myself, in a whole new light.
I know you've had plenty of relationships that appear a certain way when you look back on them right now, but wouldn't it be very possible for there to be some piece of information, some life lesson, or a certain slice of enlightenment out there that would allow you to see your past relationships in a whole new light?
Remember when you first learned something from this community that made you really feel like you knew THE REAL TRUTH about a lie that you were previously fooling yourself to believe? I fooled myself into believing that being a nice guy who supplicates to women would get them to feel attracted to me. Seduction community knowledge made me feel like I knew the real truth behind that shit.
Wouldn't it be very possible for there to be some different perspective out there you haven't exposed yourself to yet that could make you feel "the real truth" about an aspect or two of relationships? Wouldn't it be possible that you could be fooling yourself into believing the wrong thing right now?
If you're believing ALL the right things at this very moment,
then why aren't you happy on an enlightened nirvana level right now? We must all submit to the fact that we do not know everything.
Now, onto the tough love:
You sound like a bitter-ass 14 year old rAFC who's just read a PUA ebook after experiencing a bad breakup. You're letting specific personal negative experiences you've had bias the advice you're giving to people in an unhelpful way. Stop whatever you're doing right now to take a deep breath and just
breathe, man. Take some time to take a step back from your own mind in order to clear it.
Remember the 10 day positivity challenge you did a while back? Do it again. Except this time it will be for a slightly different reason.
Your tone is very misogynistic. Whether you know it or not, you're unfairly placing blame onto women for things that YOU fucked up, such as neglecting to manage expectations. Ultimately the fault lies in you not clearly identifying who you were and what you wanted in the first place. Man up and take some fucking responsibility. Women are magnificent emotional beauties that love freely and deserve to be loved and appreciated for showering the world with their feminine radiance.
Currently I'm at a point in my life where I "stand behind anti-monogamy" as well, but at least I am open to the fact that I could change my mind later. This is because I am not letting bitterness from misunderstanding cloud my judgment. I am merely accepting my current sexual lifestyle preference rather than resisting anything. You, sir, are resisting something.
All your negativity is essentially coming from that very thing: misunderstanding. Right now, you THINK you clearly understand the nature of woman and of yourself, but you don't. Your ego is actually fooling you by encouraging you to resist discomfort in any and every way you can think of.
And don't forget that old saying, "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten." Just be mindful to the possibility that you may have been approaching relationships with women from the wrong angle your entire life, which would be the reason you can't look back at any of them and just smile from being grateful to have had such wonderful experiences.
I still have high hopes for you, man.
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