I´ve met this girl in a judo competition. HB 8.5 Ive seen her she looked back I smilled she smilled back, I wondered a bit decided to get the number for sakes of practice. Asked her for it got the number. Called her on the same day and arranged a day 2 to the next day.

The day2 was great and she said she really enjoyed the date and was happy. She could not see me the next wekend cause she had a competition still she texted me like 5 times saying howthe city she was was romantic and so on. We arranged a day 3 for the next weekend.

Oki from here things got bad, first she got no battery on the phone to schedule the time, I tried to reach her no answer so she phoned me and we decided to do the day 3 even if almost no planning. I arrived there but maybe cause I rushed or cause she also did not plan we were sort of apart. We could not stabilish good eye contact and she told me she was once engaged for 5 years, I have nor asked about previous relationships, she just bring it to the convo. From this we lost track of the good funny convo and got stuck in a sort of life planning convo.

I left the date with a bad impression, it was last week but from that she had no longer contacted me. I reached her twice on phone and she said we could watch a game today but hasnot returned the proposal. Was I just unlucky or can I somehow fix it?

You need to work on having a stronger Frame. She started talking about something that neither of you really wanted to talk about, but you just went with it and ended up going down a road to crappy emotions and not having fun. You should have stopped when you saw it was going that way, turned it around and overpowered it with your good emotions, positive attitude and made the date fun again.

Since then, you've continued to keep that poor frame of mind where you are uncertain of yourself and are overly concerned with what she's thinking and feeling. STOP IT. Be happy, be positive, be fun; be the guy that she had a great time with on that day 2 and she'll become happy and interested again.

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~ Rye

Ive called her yesterday for the football game from today. No answer she said she would call she had a problem calling last tiem these things happen I just wonder if I should call again maybe monday.

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Hahahahaha. Oh dear.

I dunno how many weeks he meant, but I agree with Roads' Angel about not obsessing over her. She may not be able to call you from her phone, but if she has your number, then she can get in touch with you from any other phone on the planet that actually works. Don't keep calling her, let her call you and if she doesn't within the next 2 weeks, then give her shout and act as if you didn't even notice, you just finally got around to checking up on her and wanted to do something - don't mention that she never called you, nothing, just be cool man and then utilize what I mentioned before. If that doesn't work, then it's most likely done.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I will not call, still I get upset cause I went from being reached and texted about her thinking about me to NOTHING in 2 hours, 2 doomed hours and it simple did not works more. I´m in a good pahse I can get girls with no problems still I want "a" girl if you follow me. Yes many will discuss this si wrong to be here if I want it still each one has one approach for it.

I think that's a much more healthy attitude than continually wanting new and different girls. You haven't given it enough time to judge whether it is completely blown either, you said that her phone is broken, so that could easily be the reason for lack of contact. Hell perhaps your phone number is only stored in her phone and she can't even get it to call you from another phone. Give it a week or two and then try to get in touch with her and see where things go. Don't be so hasty and if it doesn't work out the way you hope, then it wasn't meant to be and she obviously is too hasty of a person and you need someone that won't be so rash.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Man no answers since friday im a bit concerned Ithink I will call tommorow cause if I leave to phone just on friday or thursday she may think I just want her for the weekend and this is not the case if I want something on the weekend I need to move now.

Rye I did it, sent a text. she replied, i texted about an upcomming championship she replied I called, she mentioned she would like to attend but it was out of the city so of couse she couldnt go (300km from here in fact). So I sent a text about the outcome got a reply again. So I called, said I would like to see her, she agreed we got apart... She mentioned she has exams the next 2 weeks starting this last friday I tried to call friday no pick up, sent a good luck txt like 5 hours later no reply. Am I plain dead?

life planning - abort, abort!

Is this a plain flood or am I missing something?

you are getting to obsess with this one girl. She probably thinks you want her for one reason only. You should just move on and find another girl.

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agreed.
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Not sure, I would say I´m obsessed I dont call her like 20 times per day, just liked her what do you think she is thinking and why?

If you call/text a girl and she doesn't reply...don't lose all hope. She could have been busy and didn't get the message yet. If you contact her twice without a response...back off!! She got those messages and if you call her more it is going to look clingy and needy whether you are or aren't. give her a few days to a week like you did before and then contact her if she doesnt contact you by then.