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Hah, speaking of rings...only a "10" fits on my left ring finger.
I'm not making that up. When I bought my first peacocking ring, the default size was an American standard "10" and when it shipped to me I couldn't fit it on any other finger.
Speaking of which, I would love to point out how much I like some of those rings Rose but that feels kinda queer saying that to another guy.
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Ah fuck it. Those rings rock dude. Like the ying-yang one especially.
I'm surprised at your comment there man. Commenting on another man's attractiveness, whether it be something he wears, or the man himself, has nothing to do was sex and shows that you are comfortable in your sexuality. Complimenting people makes them feel good and lets them know you think well of them, so don't read more into it than that. I compliment straight men, gay men, straight women, gay women, doesn't matter.
As far as rings, I wear mostly basic metal ones, some of my favorite ones I got for $8.50 and some of the ones I've had issues with rusting were $30. I bought a wicked one while I was in NY running a workshop this weekend (I like to pick up some piece of clothing/accessory at every one, that way I have something to remember it by and keep those good memories forever - good anchoring) that was made by a street vendor that makes everything out of just stainless steel forks, using a pair of pliars.
Rye, don't read too much into it. Just an off the cuff post meant to be witty and funny, obviously it wasn't viewed as such. In order not to further insult the gay and lesbian community here, I want to take this opportunity to apologize for my use of the word "queer" and qualify my reasons.
I actually have no trouble complimenting guys on their jewelery in my real life. In fact I find it to be both an excellent conversation starter and a great way to hook myself into a set. It also makes me non-threatening, as usually the guys who hit on women in a set immediately start complimenting the women's jewelery or dress.
I also practice MMA, which essentially entails wrestling and grappling with sweaty men for hours on end. I'm not going to say that I don't have my insecurities just like everybody else here, but I will say that if I wasn't comfortable enough with my sexuality to compliment a man on his jewelry then I probably shouldn't be touching another man at all.
Nonetheless, like it or not there is a taboo in our society about men complimenting other men's jewelry. You just don't see the guys meeting up at the water cooler on a Monday morning to talk about how pretty their rings look.
It goes back to playground rules and the definition of masculinity in our society---anything outside of what defines "manliness" is viewed as "sissy" coming from a boy on the playground...this is the kid who usually gets beat up. Most men DO have inhibitions against complimenting each other on their physical accessories, and it is not an indication of sexual insecurity, rather a preprogrammed behavioral response from childhood. Essentially, boys are taught to act like boys, be rough and tumble, not to cry when he feels pain, and avoid at all cost the image of acting like a girl. Incidentally, since girls are usually talking, giggling, and complimenting each other on how nice their dresses or shoes or necklaces or rings look while the boys are running wild all around them, such an act is exactly what most men have been taught to avoid.
But I digress...back to the point: what makes PUAs so special, what empowers them the most is their ability to ignore social norms and break unspoken rules in order to close the distance between him and that which he desires.
So when I do compliment guys' jewelery in a set, I am damn well aware that there's a 50/50 chance that it makes me look gay, but I just don't give a fuck about it because at the end of the day, it disguises my very heterosexual intentions and helps disarm my obstacles to make sure I'm the one coming home with the girl.
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