You meet a HB, she seems great....really fun. You dont display motive so much when you meet her but you are really loud, alpha, funny, and you keep talking a lot telling storys and such.

The next day she calls/txt's and invites you to hang out with her and her friends. You go to hang out and continue the same way you were when you met her. After that day you can tell she isnt as in to you. Why?

Well, after the first encounter with a womain you need to really tone down your energy level and crazyness. You need to be partially that tough guy you see with the hot blonde that doesnt talk much. Now you dont want to be totally like that and not speak. But you want to let them ask you things, you answer....maybe be a little funny and get in a story or two....but dont act so excited as you were when you met her. This makes a HUDGE difference in attraction.

Try it.....I did these past few days with a 2 set and the results were amazing.

~kino

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"Life is short, when its done u cant start over"

Great post man. I really think I should have done this. I met this girl that I fell for pretty bad, and when i first met her, she had a boyfriend. But she still tracked me down on facebook, got my number from her friend, and texted me non stop, the day after I met her, and I didn't even game her. I was just very alpha, loud, playful, and cocky somewhat when I was hanging out with some friends and I met her.

Even though she had the bf, she still constantly told me she loved me, and if i wouldnt say i love you back, she would get mad and say something like "Im waiting for you to say something back..". And when she was sick I texted her to see how she was feeling and she said, "I feel terrible, I think you should come over and take care of me".

That was all within the first few weeks. Now after this, I was still perhaps TOO cocky, and talked and joked alot. And Slowly, she withdrew.. She barely texted me, and then not at all, she stopped with all IOI's. It killed me when I couldn't figure out why. Maybe now I have the answer?

Correct ryguy....you have to drop it and get much quieter and calmer.....and that builds value....

~kino

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"Life is short, when its done u cant start over"

Kino, why am I the only one who can consistently detect the brilliance and truth behind your posts?

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This applies not just to the long term, but also when running a set. You enter with your energy slightly higher than the set's level and you pick them up at first, showing that you are fun and exciting. After you have achieved this, you need to become more serious and tone the energy down, or you end up being nothing more than a dancing monkey and have only entertainment value, but no chance at establishing attraction.

Good post Kino, more people need to learn about this, because I find myself telling it to most people I see in the field.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

This is probably the best piece of advice I've ever read on here. I've never really thought about it like that. This will help me LOADS.

Cheers