| I have lingering jaded views on women. However, I have become a lot better at letting them go the more I develop as a player. I have had them since I could remember. It had to do with socialization, it had to do with the way I watched weird relationships within my family, relatives. (divorce, cheating, lying, etc). In the beginning. I was a nice a guy. I followed conventional dating advice and female advice. All of that advice is bullshit.
Eventually, I was led to this forum and have been improving ever since my join date. One of the biggest sticking points is giving a woman a compliment. I disliked it, but now I know that I have been doing them a disservice. My last girlfriend actually was telling me straight up "how come you don't check me out" and my logical dumbass was like "i tell you that you look good all the time or don't we have sex all the time, isn't that a compliment enough"
Now I know. I used to be like "oh she gets attention from other dudes, why should I join in and shower her with my compliments"
Even though she gets them daily from random males and females she still wants to hear it from you. EVEN better, she wants you to look at her like she is the yummiest thing that you have seen in awhile. She won't mind you looking, especially if she dresses up for you. This should actually increase her attempts at looking good for you.
She wants to know what you like about her, and what is special about her. Yes, she will want it daily, if this is a girl you are seeing on the regular. Yes, she wants to know how interesting she is, how much fun she is to be around and how good she makes you feel. Sounds beta ? Not really if that is how you feel. And you shouldn't feel like you are SPAM power because if you have picked her up with the right mindset this is a girl who you genuinely wanted or who you wanted to keep in the long run.
I AM SURE most of you have told your friends at one point in your lives, "damn, she looked sooo goood, I couldn't even stop looking, he ass was razor sharp....etc." how come you can't tell it to her face ?
I was watching Deadpool (good movie) last night and the way Deadpool flirts with his woman and the way she looks at her is pretty direct as it gets. Give her what she wants. Give her some of that attention. Express your desires without seeming eager or desperate. That was one of my sticking points and it still pops up here and there, but nothing that practice and confidence can't fix.
Have fun!
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