so this past weekend i met up with an old friend from 5-7th grade. he told me how much i changed and stuff (i used to be the super nice nerdy kid that was really weird but friends with everybody) i used to have horrible fashion sense and couldn't talk to girls to save my life (i had a gf but she just been my friend since preschool)

but when we met up i looked completely different, i had a GQ style, lost weight, and a crazy smooth charisma. we saw some girls and he went over to talk to one and i talked to the other, i used some tips i got off here and both girls wanted me and i even got a kiss close, and i was arrogant about it to them and they just ate it up

so then after ig to both of there numbers my friend said i've change and that i need to be myself and not this new person i just want to be. and for some reason i let it get to me

so my question is, if a nerdy person gets tired of being the outcast and wants to change into the person he's always wanted to be is he still being himself or has he changed? and if he has changed is it the same as a fat person getting buff or something because in every movie when the nerd gets fame and becomes the person he wants to be they call him fake or say he's not being himself and goes back to being a nerd?............am i fake for wanting to be a PUA and learning how to become one?

i know its a stupid question but yall prbably realized by now i always ask stupid questions lol

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

Think of it as becoming a "super version" of yourself. Everyone changes as they get older. Learning PUA is just accelerating the learning process.

Honestly, all you have to ask yourself along your journey is if YOU like the person you are. Fuck everybody else, they can either get in line or leave.

Were you happier as the nerd or are you happier now? I'm willing to bet that you enjoy getting girls and being a cool guy. So no, changing yourself for the better is not becoming fake.

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"Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?"- Mia Wallace

If you are being an arrogant asshole to your friend that is one reason he may want you not to have changed, but if that is not the case, he is 100% wrong. I was a huge dork until college and I changed. Best thing I ever did. No point being yourself if yourself sucks. Change it.

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Assuming that you didn't behave like a complete dork to him I think the problem is like I envision it. Just the single fact that he mentions that you should be yourself tells me two things

1: You actually didn't behave bad to him because he would've told you just to fuck off, just as men do, not this wussy girly talk.

2: He isn't on the front row of social capacities.

2 Makes it likely that my vision is correct: People don't like changes in other people. They hate them for numerous reasons. Your progression puts a light on their own lack of progression, like a huge cinema screen where their own flaws are projected on and they're forced to watch it. Basicly he's saying 'shut it down'. Ofcourse the sub reason is probably that it lowers his chances and makes him look even more beta. People don't have to be aware of this to feel it. Neither way it's your problem. Everybody is responsible for his own life.

As long as you keep questioning yourself these things about PUA I don't even think you CAN get fake. Keeps your behavior in touch with your personality. Just explain it to him and leave it up to him to join or not.