Some people may remember me as TaosLust. I've been a member of this forum for several years. I just wanted to thank everyone here, especially the older members. This forum has really changed my life. Although my sex life hasn't improved much since my joining of the forum, my career and academic lives have substantially improved. This forum gave me the life skills necessary to be bold, adventurous, and hard working. Many of the things that I did while I was an active member of the forums I still do in my personal life. I've become much more outgoing, and a lot less dependent on what others think. I would seriously like to thank all the various older members of the forum who helped me for countless years.

Although I've never achieved success with a woman, I have become successful, and I have become much more independent. I plan to move out next fall and start my new life as a single young college graduate. I'm very excited to start this new chapter of my life, but I also know that a lot of work and effort lies ahead of me. I have become contempt with my lack of success with women. I know my time will come. Right now is not a good time to focus on women. I will most likely return to the subject of women in my late 20s or early 30s with a much clearer head, much more financially stable, and much more able to handle the consequences of sex such as STDs or accidental children. For now I enjoy having a life of few distractions and problems, and I expect to be financially well off within 5 years.

I started pick up at the age of 19, with the hopes of picking up my college crush. Ha-ha, those days seem so distant, and yet those are some fond memories. I've seriously enjoyed my stay with you all. I will pop my head around everyone once and awhile, but it is now time for me to start living my life and enjoying the fruits of my labor. I think I'm writing this for the chronically unsuccessful members of the forum, who are sex starved and sex crazy. I don't think there is anything wrong with sex, but your time will come, go focus on other pursuits in life, and pursue those things with the greatest of passion. Leave the world of women, pick-up, and love behind temporarily to focus on putting yourself in a better position. I have tremendous respect for men who start pick up in their late 20s and early 30s because at least they have most of their lives together with the exclusion of that final piece.

-- Dicklow

It's a little bit sad to hear that you haven't improved your skills with women during such a long time. I suppose you are still a little bit young and that things will become easier as you grow older. It did for me. Good luck!

Why is it sad? My life isn't over and women seriously aren't that important to me anymore. I can honest to god tell you that I'm happier now than when I started the game. Being a single and free man with few responsibilities is has a liberating feel to it. I started when I was a teenager and no I did not witness substantial improvements, but during that time I was going through many other situations which have largely fixed themselves.

I'm glad that you improved as you got older. It gives me hope. I seriously posted this, because I believe many young guys waste their time trying to find social validation and women, instead of trying to enjoy sex or great company. Once I realized that most of what I was doing was in relation to social validation, I became much more settled in my life.

If anyone has a story like hugge's please post it. I think it is a valuable story that needs to be told.

Tasty tribute to pua forum member dicklow: http://vocaroo.com/i/s07zn212HHEh

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You've got nothing to thank us for if you're still not getting laid.

Sometimes I despair at the lack of testosterone on this forum. It really feels like I'm reading posts from a eunuch in Ancient Greece.

The purpose of this forum is have sex with hot women. Why is this so hard to understand? All the other stuff like Social Shyness, Approach Anxiety, Building an Attractive Lifestyle etc. are just baby-steps towards getting you to the top. Getting you to the stage where you are wading knee-deep through the highest quality of pussy you desire and being able to pick and choose who you fuck. We are here to learn and help each other get laid. It's not a NAMBLA / bromance forum.

Good for you for getting on with your career, but I'm telling you now, you could've done that yourself without pickup.

I disagree with the career and personal development part. It would've taken decades for me to get where I am now because of Pick Up. A lot of the practices I implemented in pick up I still use in my day to day life. The most important getting out of my comfort zone. That just wasn't something I did prior to pick up. I do have regrets about discovering pick up as well.

I actually agree with the part about getting sex. This is the primary reason I've been a lot less active on the forums because I realize that the goals I have and the goals the forum instills aren't the same. I've progressively cared less about sex as time progresses. However, I do like to occasionally search the forums for good and interesting threads. From time to time I'll go out and try some of the things I read on here. I'm largely an inactive member who'll pop his face in every few months or so.

I realized that I had too much on my plate to fix, so instead of worrying about other people I decided to focus on myself. I had some tremendous character flaws and circumstances I had to overcome. I do apologize to the moderation staff for abusing the forums and improperly using it. I wasted a lot of peoples' time, and for that I am sorry.

I really had to think about my response, and reflect on some things you said Hunter_Foxe. I realize that you were right about some things. Not everything, but some things. I agree with you that I could've made the strides that I've made in my life without pick up. I came to this website with so many problems. I look back and laugh at some of the things now. Sometimes I think I was too open, but I think it was a necessary openness. I post here not because I am looking for attention, but to show guys who had as many problems as I had that there is hope.

Most of your post I would not disagree with, but the one part I have to disagree with. You said that most men on this forum are scared of women like Greco-Roman Eunuchs. I can't confirm or deny whether or not this is true for others. However, in my case, this was not so.

I can honestly say that I have tried practically everything in the book in short of walking up to a woman naked. I did the escalation, I isolated, k-closed, n-closed, all of that. However, sex never materialized for me. After I was robbed twice in attempts of having easy sex with morally questionable women, the importance of sex greatly diminished for me. I'm not saying that sex has no place in my life, but the value I placed on abundant quantities of women, sex, and friendships greatly decreased. I realized that blindly chasing women wasn't productive. Perhaps I should evaluate the quality of person and not the quality of physical appearance. With that being said, physical appearance is still important to me, after all I am a man. Unfortunately we think more with the head in our pants than the one on our shoulders.

I'm telling my story so that people don't repeat my foolish mistakes. I have no problem admitting that I've made several of them.

I think one of the biggest problems that I've started on this website is that I would attempt to instigate change. I would try and force others to adopt my point of view. I now understand that forcing people to do anything against their wishes is wrong. However, I feel it very important to tell my story.

I am quite the joke of the forums aren't I? I have made myself a joke. Oh well, I can't take this internet stuff too seriously. What has been done, has been done to self, not done by other.

That's a step many men can't even make. Admitting that they have made mistakes, or that they were wrong. Blaming others is easy, but admitting you're sometimes wrong yourself isn't something everybody does. I can see in you that you mean what you say and that the changes have improved you.

I'm not sure why you say your sex life hasn't improved that much. But you're right about the fact that you need other fundamentels handled before getting the women. Nevertheless, don't let your head make excuses like: "I can't have her yet, I need to be financial stable" and stuff like that. You can get every woman you want as long as you can make her interested in you.

Wallie

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I seriously believe in life balance.

You can always find time for everything, meaning that you can work hard, achieve your career goals, and still get laid at the same time. Focusing on one thing and pressuring yourself to succeed in it is a waste of time in my opinion. You can always diversify and succeed in a 100 things rather than just mastering one thing, but that's just my opinion and how I live.

Really happy that you have high hopes regarding your career, best of luck!

Dude these are some of the best years of your life, don't fucking give up something good and natural that's part of you. It's just protecting your ego from hard knocks. You're always going to be attracted to women and women are always going to be attracted to you, don't hide away. I've had a great summer messing around with loads of girls but I know for the next few months I've got to concentrate on other things and may struggle to get laid. It doesn't mean I'm going to kid myself about who I am and what I want just to protect my ego across the next few months. I'll just be sensible about it. Time goes so fast, don't waste it. Go listen to the lyrics of a song like Pink Floyd: Time and tell me you think it's ok to wait for things to line up for you

I don't think you are an attention seeker. It's more empowering to think that you did it all by yourself without pickup.
The comment about eunuchs was meant to be flippant, i didnt intend for you to take it so literally. I was just saying that the amount of estrogen flying around on a forum for men is somewhat worrying to say the least.

Thank you so much for these kind and uplifting words. I am truly grateful. It took a long time for me to come this far and learn this much. I've truly learned something great during my journey here, patience.
I would agree, getting a firm grasp of fundamentals is very essential in my case. However, I have quite a bit of work on my plate right now. These things unfortunately take precedent over relationships or sex. I understand that social health is a very important component of total fitness. However, with school, work, and self-improvement (both exercising and emotional health) taking up the vast majority of my time, there is little time left to focus on women. The time will come where I do not have so many distractions in my life, and where I can dedicate more time to improving my sex life. For now I must remain focus on the two or three task at hand in my life.

I am already doing and achieving a great deal. I have done much, but still there is much to be done. Women in the great scheme of things can wait. Nevertheless, I will take a jab at pick up every now and again to slowly improve over time.

Unfortunately with so many important things going on in my life right now, there is very little time left women. I work 40 hours a week, and go to school full time online and at nights. I exercise 2 hours a day. Plus I read and study for an additional 2 hours a day. There is literally nothing I can do right now because I'm utterly swamped in work.

I'll concede that I sometimes like the comfort of not talking to women, but this is by and large not the primary reason for my not talking to women. I literally spent my first three years of college chasing after women, and it has cost me tons of time. I failed about 4 or 5 classes during my time. Which is roughly a semester of courses. I need to hurry the hell up and finish my degree so I can move out and become an independent adult. Right now that is priority number one, becoming an independent adult.