I first came to this forum with complaints about my insecurity dealing with race and getting laid. Since there aren't as many playboys or players in history that have been Indian or Asian, I was so discouraged that I came on here.

Well, a year after my first arrival here (I would say actually 9 months after), I improved my looks, a lot, and managed to get laid. In 2012, I was with about 10 girls total. In 2013 so far I have managed to get with about 2.

Now to all of you aware, I am from the same race of men that wrote the Kama Sutra and everything but I still have this inferiority complex, not as bad as it used to be, about my heritage holding me back.

Like, when you hear of these famous womanizers who are bedding all the quality girls, I almost always notice it is either some European guy from a place like France, Spain, or Italy, some Latino guy from Brazil or Puerto Rico, or some White American guy. Here and there you may hear of a Black man doing it but you rarely hear of an Indian guy doing it to be honest.

At one point, I had to pass up a trip to Sweden this past December because I was afraid of going to a new place where people would associate me with some gypsy or muslim and I would be taken as a joke due to my ethnic appearance.

I mean I am a good looking guy (voted into beautifulpeople, get told I look good in real life, have even been approached by women before) and most girls I have been with have been considered cute by my friends. Yet, I haven't been with that one girl that people say is drop dead gorgeous and in a way I get this limiting belief in my head that these women only want some Italian guy, a White American guy, or some Latino guy.

Like you don't hear of men from my background nailing these women on the regular here or even having any success with women in foreign countries which has screwed with my inner game here and there.

Right now I cannot even see myself traveling to another country because I hear of how backwards people there can be compared to the US.

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It is always an ongoing process. There is always room for improvement. Pushing yourself pasts these goals to get to the end result is what is you need. Most people know of great improvement techniques but no one wants to do the work. "Give me a quick band-aid" is what people want nowadays. I am reading currently 7 habits of highly effective people which has sold over 15 million copies. How many of those people actually put into practice what the book teaches? Probably not a whole lot. These limiting beliefs that you have should be tested out for yourself. Try that from now on.

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You are the one allowing your race to get in the way. Work on your inner self more. There is no reason to be ashamed of your race, regardless of your race's history or the success or lack thereof your race in the game.

Do you feel good looking? Yes.

Do you get women? Yes.

That's all the proof you need that your race doesn't matter.

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See that is my thing, like I can score with girls outside my own race but the thing is I want to be better. I want to date an 8/10 girl who happens to be White but I have exclusively seem them either date White men or date Latino men who look White and that creates a mindfuck of limiting beliefs in my head. Not to mention I have heard that my ethnic appearance will work against me in every single way in Europe which sucks because I wanted to try and daygame there.

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Your ignorance of European culture is astonishing. Darker men are actually rather sought after in Sweden because most guys are blond with blue eyes. If anything YOU are the one being prejudiced, because you make assumptions about a whole country you've never been to before.
Stop caring what other men think of your girl.
You're a racist yourself. Stop judging countries you've never been to.

when they say dark men they are talking of black guys and in some cases Italian guys/Latino guys

Middle Eastern men are very common there hence the bad stereotypes I am so afraid of

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Where is your evidence if you've never been to Sweden? Can you show me a link to a survey which says "SWEDISH WOMEN HATE INDIAN MEN"? Don't just make up fake rumours about an entire country's women.

One of the key things about PUA which I like is being honest to yourself. You're not being honest to yourself.

I surely haven't heard anything about them liking Indian men or Asian men or any men outside of black men and white men.

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as the title of your post indicates, you most certainly have inner game issues. Your making race out to be a bigger thing than it is. Yes, women have their preference of what they want in a guy, just like you have your preference of what you want in a woman. Think about the women that you prefer most. then realize that you didn't just have sex with that exact type of woman. There were things outside their direct appearance that attracted you to them. this would be called their personality.

If you have an attractive personality, then your set. It won't make up for being 200 lbs overweight, but you've said that your good looking. the combination of looks and personality is good enough for any woman.

I HIGHLY recommend you read a book on inner game. Your problems with confidence amongst different races isn't going to be solved in one post. It doesn't matter how many times we tell you that race doesn't matter and that your just putting these women on a pedestal, you have some other limiting beliefs stemming from other shit. Read a book on inner game. internalize it and make an effort every day to make yourself better. then you'll look back and realize how stupid this shit about race was.

it isn't about women in say Sweden for example saying

"oh I will do white first then black then asian then etc."

my worry is

"i will only do white or black, maybe asian, the rest is no go, no brown please"

I read so much about the hatred against muslims, gypsies, arabs, and just brown people in general in Europe and then I read about how Black guys and White guys are the only ones getting laid there which made me cancel a trip to sweden with two good friends. Honestly, on one hand I do want to experience a new country but on the other my fear is losing or striking out because of my ethnicity since I have not heard of brown men having success with women there at all in any given European country except for maybe the UK.

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Oh just stop the bleeding right now. Girls have preferences but it may or not be influenced by society. How many people have you heard this from? Are you going to generalize here or give me some hard facts? This is all in your head. You aren't your thoughts. Get out and get moving. If you read this to yourself on your deathbed, then you can add it to your list of regrets.


Dean A

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my thing isn't that I have heard some of these bad things but more so that I have never heard any good things or any things at all about the experience a brown guy may have in europe

all I have heard and read is that women and people in general there hate arabs and gypsies

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

Heard and read it. You haven't experienced it. A man can read all the books he wants but he gets into a habit of lazy thinking when he doesn't use that knowledge.

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When I was 7 I was told Micky Mouse, Santa Clause, and Easter bunny was real, were they? NOPE! What we get told is often not the truth. Perhaps you should research something before validating it as fact.

You've never even had an experience there and you are sitting there talking shit. Your inner game issues as discussed require some serious work.

All I have read, all I have heard... get the fuck out of here with that bull shit. Most people don't talk about the amazing experiences, most people talk about the shitty ones. I'm a manager at a store I'd say about 1 in 5 experiences I have with customer feedback are negative... There are far more positive experiences at my work then negative so why do I receive more negative feedback? Most people are pessimistic (and some people are real douchey too and are trying to get people in trouble that didn't do shit because they didn't like them). People bitch and complain... that doesn't make all true. Most people can't own up and say Oh maybe I just don't have game... there are a number of reasons for excessive negative feedback, don't get caught up in it, forge your own path.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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