Enter my mind for a minute:

1. What's the first goal you should have when talking to women? Finding something you can relate on.
2. What's the best way to relate to women? Having past experiences that are relatable to theirs.
3. How do you have experiences relatable to theirs? Fucking go out and live your life.

I used to have this obsession with every time I went out, it was to sarge. Like literally that was it and it's sad because the majority of the time, I left empty handed. It was because I sucked at getting past that platonic small talk you could have with an old lady at a super market. I had no idea how to relate with women unless it involved lying or some shit, which I wasn't really a fan of doing. Eventually I said fuck it and stopped being a try hard. The beauty of this is that once you stop caring about getting the women, they start coming to you. I'm sure for some of you this is basic, but it's still mind blowingly ironic when you think about it.

Main Point
Don't always focus on getting the women. Go hang out with your boys not to get laid every time, but to do shit that can be a good story later on. The more good stories you have, the more likely you can relate to a woman.

I still consider myself a hardcore AFC so any questions, suggestions or corrections are more than welcome. Thanks, guys.

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Nothing in pick up applies to all women. There's no such thing as rejection... they're just playing hard to get.

well no one likes going to their job (some do, most don't) so if you treat sarging as a job rather than a fun hobby it will screw with your mindset. Good thing you are past that phase. Now, you are totally correct about the care free, but the problem with this is you are still somewhat limiting yourself to the girls that come to you (some may be quality, but some may not) . Of course focus on a good time but remember that if you see a woman you like, you should still go and find out if you guys click.

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Yep agree 100% once you have that mindset of fun, conversation and meeting new women become easy and enjoyable.

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"Once you learn to feel the fear and do it anyway, the outcomes will come."- 60yoc

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