There's a lot of threads here consisting of concrete 'complaints' about the person's failure with women. You will hear and read a lot of 'I've read 30 books and NONE of them worked . . . ' , 'I've gone out 4 nights a week for 3 months . . . STILL no progress . . .' - all of which in the end concludes one of two things for that person:

1. I'm a failure.
2. PU is bullshit.

First one is true by the way. The most recent thread was about how money is important in PU and that you need to be 'filthy rich' in order to get with women and score. Furthermore, there's also threads that talk about the importance of looks (probably the most discussed area in this topic) and how that person is not getting success because he's not sexy enough or because he's asian/black/alien/whatever.

If you feel yourself falling into one of the ^above mentioned categories of mentalities, or if you're already there (and your ego hasn't prevented you from admitting it to yourself) - take a look at this video and evaluate the true reasons for why you're not getting anywhere with women, or anything else in life for that matter . . .

The only thing preventing you from being successful is you. If you want something in life, you take it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRVNQonY ... ature=plcp

Besides executing and taking actions for what you want to achieve - evaluating your failures is equally of great importance.

This is why certain methods of eliminating AA are completely dumb. 'Go approach 10 women by saying hello and saying the alphabet out loud'. As the purpose of those kinds of 'exercises' are clear at the surface - what's stopping you from actually trying to have a conversation with a woman? Instead of standing in front of her saying the alphabet like a retarded circus monkey - why not put a realistic conversation as the goal? 'Go up to a woman, say hello and tell her you like her style of clothing. Then walk off'. No more circus monkey. And it also actually contributes to your success since it's a REAL conversation you're practicing with and not some circus bullshit which spews out of your mouth for no reason at all.

Set realistic goals and execute them piece by piece. Make your goals a habit, and not just something you will do over the course of a month or two. Prepare for it to become your permanent lifestyle.

Or at least, prepare your mind to think of it as such.

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Just something to add.

#1

-I tried this k-close trap yesterday with a girl and it totally didn't work.

-Was there a connection, and enough attraction?

-Yeah she played with her hair once, and smiled two times on my jokes. That was totally 3 IOIs.

- ...

Or the other end...

#2

-I met this girl at a club and spent hours talking with her but felt like it was not going anywhere.

-It's your job to move it anywhere. What were you talking about?

-School/Job/the music/the weather/other boring shit.

-Why haven't you tried some more interesting things like passions, goals in life, the nature of love?

-Because.... lots of completely irrelevant and unqualified excuses.

In conclusion. The thing is, some people here really have a fucked up mindset. They ask for help, and when it's given, but it's not something they wanted to hear, they immediately try to attack it.

It also doesn't help that their mind always searches for validation of these BSs. Like they only see not too good looking guys fail, and don't notice the ones that have success. Or even if they do, they try to explain it like "He must be rich" or something like that.

P.S. Sorry if I repeated something that Tyler talked about in the video. I didn't have the patience to watch the 2 hours now...

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Not only do people not accept certain advice, but newbies tend to think very mechanically about the game.

Realizing that emotions are not linear and you can't really 'structure' a pick-up method is the point. All 'methods' are rather guidelines than anything else.

Sometimes you just have to back off and think for a second. What do your instincts tell you? If a girl is throwing herself at you, what do YOU think it means?

I remember back in the early days when I got one of my first kisses ever from a girl I was extremely in to. Out of nowhere, she threw herself at me while we were sitting on the couch and she started making out with me. Instead of accepting that I had it in the basket, the only thing that was going through my mind at that point was 'Why is she kissing me? I've only gone through A1 and A2. We need to go through A3 and C1 before we skip to C2 (kissing). Hmmmm what does this mean? OH, SHE MUST BE SHIT TESTING ME, THAT'S IT' - and I pushed her away.

^This pattern is seen on the forums everyday, where people's lack of self-trust could actually be one of the major factors contributing to their 'lack of game', rather than anything else.

Once you trust yourself and once you push through your barriers (which are really the ONLY barriers) and willing to risk certain things - you will be 10 steps closer to success in PU.

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Wow... Your example is very extreme. But it really hits the nail on the head. I see this pattern too. And it's almost impossible to help these people because all they care about is "magic methods" and "flawless routines" that will get them the girl.

Lack of self-trust and calibration is a major problem in the community. But the problem is that these can not be helped by other than the person himself. If they don't go out, don't meet people, don't stop mental masturbation, don't push every set to the edge, then no master coach, or book will help.

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