Hey guys.

Ill get right to it. I have a LTG at the moment, when we started dating she was hung up on her ex, and mentioned him beyong a normal level. Since then things have been going good. Weve been togeather 4 months or so, told each other we love each other and plan on doing the whole "rest of our lifes thing" togeather.

Thing is, she is going away on a wto month long trip with 20 other people from her course, including her ex. We will have no contact with each other becides facebook Msg's (not chat). Her ex tried to add her on facebook reacently, and said he would look forward to seing her on the trip, she says she doesnt like him, but she will be friendy with him to avoid making it an issue for the other people on the trip.

Now we have talked about this, and she has told me she is 100% commited to me, and not to worry. But, i am worried, i trust her, BUT I am worried, especially since her ex has apparently slept with over 35 woman. he's like 22.

Am i being jealous, or am i fucked. what do you think?

~JJ

Yes, you are being jealous! you are over thinking a situation that you have no control over. Stop doing it! Have the confidence in your self, that she would of course be fateful to you, because YOU know you are the best!

Turn this around! Plant a little seed that YOU are the one SHE needs to worry about while she is gone.

Do not send a shit ton of garbage messages! Let her think you are having a great time!

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Bro....it´s something beyond our control what other people will/can/want to do...
I´m like you,insecure as hell about fidelity and trust,probably it´s our own problem,we dont trust ourselves enough....good luck

Well after being with so many girls with bf, and married i would say you are fucked, lol! BUT if the girl is in love and happy, Most of the time they do not cheat, unless they get aroused mentally or physically.. Also you know her better than us, so if you already thinking there is trouble, then there will be.. Sorry for the bad news... P.S. I know people will disagree with me, with the alpha, confidence bs, but anyways, my motto is try to avoid for your girl to be in tempting situations subtle, not looking like you are overprotective, but if she cheats is beyond your control...Also you sound like a nice dude "rest of our life together" in 4 months, oh oh, sorry dude, the other dude is probably a bad ass...Now if she becomes a challenge to the other dude and he keeps pushing, she will probably get turn off and no cheat...Good luck!

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You cannot spend your life worrying about if your gf/wife will cheat on you. You can't monitor and control women, if she is willing to cheat on you during this trip then she is willing to cheat on you at home, while you go out with the boys. Temptation comes into play, but cheater's cheat, and faithful stay faithful.

Honestly if you are having doubts on her keeping faithful then you should find another girl that you trust.

You must be picking up signs that she is not trustful? Or you just being a bitch?
Shit like this scares me, grow a penis, insert it into 20 more women and then go get married to 1 of the 20 you are most capatible with.

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See, i framed this question so the only outcomes were negative. Jealous or fucked = asshole or Beta male. Because i know im in the wrong, In real terms these are the problems normal people (non pua's) deal with, and after being out the loop for so long, I wanted to get the oppinion of myself from two years ago. and you guys are the closest that i am going to get.

Hence, I am being a Bitch, I am being Jealous, I am fucking awesome or i wouldnt have had her out of a choice between her and 2 other girls i was seing, she wont cheat on me, because if she would, she would have done already.

Smoth op? long term relationships scare you? You cant Game forever dude.

Haha, no dude I'm in one currently. I meant young guys falling in love to quickly and with the first women they meet. I just seen good friends fall head over heels with the first girl they bang and then live horrible lives because they don't understand that other options and happiness exist! Not saying this is your case since you have been gaming for a while, just making a general statement.

And yeah good attitude man. Stressing about "what if" will ruin your life! Only advice if you are feeling uneasy, is to make sure you show her a great time before she leaves! Girl's that are loyal are very loyal.

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I agree you are FUCKED my friend that's what happen with my ex wife she went down to San Diego for a week and when she cam back she started accusing me of cheating on her then i come to find out that she slept with multiple guys down there even a guy that had the same name I did. SO here my advice go back basics and keep your emotions on ICE remember the person willing to end the relationship is the one that has all the control. She will play coy and act like nothing happen but trust me this guy has already made plans to lay her multiple times while they are there and one of them will start with a party and we all know where that ends up.

You got it! You are the prize! Not her!

My main girl is a LTR, I have to trust my ability that she remains loyal, when we are apart, although I continue to game and bang, Maybe that's not for you, the point is I am in control. She wants me to be loyal, so in order for her to convey that properly...She must remain loyal. And if she doesn't, I may never know, but hers is what keeps my calm. She completely understands, if I found out she was ever un-loyal, it would be over that very second.

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Pua, nonpua, naturals, dude we all have those problems and insecurities, 60 yoc says is the purity expectation, he says a your gf sucking another dude dick is your problem, women are sexual... As much as i like 60 yoc, i ain't down with that...The problem you have according to what you wrote is:

1.- She liked and kept talking ex in the past.
2.-she is not talking to you for a while and she is away
3.- the dude had a bit of game(35 girls)
4.- "4 months will be together for ever"
5.- you are posting this problem.
6.- the ex all exited about the trip, there is some history familiarity, he probably fucked her before( he knows her, and he knows how to get in)

They are all red flags, i do not care if you are fucking 10 girls, this one is the one you have a crush on. With that being said, if you and her are talking about together forever and she loves you she may not do anything(but that will scare the shit out of a girl)... Good luck!

I been many times fucking a girl while she is on the phone talking to bf and hubby, i think i posted in one of the lay reports... Dude i am rooting for you but i am being blunt, again, you know your girl better than us, just the 4 months stuff scares me dude...

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You know what, when i posted this i was looking for oppinions, i wanted them to be negative too. The reason was, i was just in a down state. I forgot how much that can impact on your life.

She did talk about her ex alot at first. But she talked negtively about him.
Its a weird thing that when your in a down state, a girl can suck you cock, tell you they love you, and mention how your better than her ex (not during the sex btw). And you think -why's she thinking about her ex-.

I also wanted to explain somthing, the bing with each other forever thing. I have been with a fair few girls, i have never met one that i wanted to do anything more than fuck, because i find it pointless to go out with a girl who i dont think is somone i could settle down with in the end. Sorta like i find it pointless to rent a flat when you could live in a house and pay money towards owning it.

So, personally if i am dating someone, it will always be wit the intention of us staying togeather for keeps, because if i couldnt see myself with them in 30 years, i would be with them at all. The best virtue of the game for me, is that i could weed out the kind of girls i like being with and having sex with.

anyways, thanks for the oppinions ect, very interesting takes.

Wow, so this was a year ago???

So as it turns out, she did sleep with her ex, and then dumped me the day she got back....


Nah, Alls good, still with the same girl, moving in soon, super all good happy style ending.

Though reading what people posted regarding this issue, i dont think you were in any way wrong, infact there were so many red flags that the best possible advice was to brace for impact and get out of there. I just has that bit of faith and a lot of luck. The reason i thought we would od the togeather for ever" thing a year ago is the same reason im still with her now. I met 100s of woman through game, so once i met the "right" one, i knew it.

anyways, this about raps this up.

Hay Bro good luck with this,well done, nice to hear a follow throgh on the story always good to hear how it ended ,hate it when a guy disappears and never tells us the ending

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