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I'm sorry if I think a dating coach should actually be somewhat smooth.
Pickup is not smooth. It's messy. Admittedly some lays are easier than others if her buying temperature is high, but the whole process of picking up women is often fraught with "un-smooth" challenges. You regularly have to deal with:
1) Female friends of hers cock blocking you (usually jealous fatties)
2) Her anti-slut mechanisms designed to keep you interested, whether she wants to fuck you or not
3) Anything from one, but up to a whole sausage-fest of chodes trying to cockblock you. Not just the other guys in the club, but could be guys in her group who have a much stronger connection with her, such as brothers, cousins, work colleagues, flat mates, college friends, tenuously linked orbiters or friend-zoned close guy friends.
4) Environmental cockblockers if you are pulling outside a club, such as her innate fear of strangers (day game), fear of the loss of her reputation (college game) or even the fear of the loss of your friendship.
So you can't usually pull this off and still look smooth, nor should you even care about looking cool. Every wing I've ever had who either said they were 'smooth' or whose actions were smooth just weren't getting the results I was getting from what I observed from them over an extended period. Smooth means you are trying too hard to act suave and sophisticated. Basically you are trying to look cool, but it's just another form of putting women on a pedestal. You are trying to impress them and "earn" them with your coolness. Fuck that shit, grow some balls.
I agree that some of Julien's stuff sounds needy out of context. But the principle of what he does is that once you get rejected, you should kill the interaction completely so that you are no longer attached to that girl. This allows you to "burn your bridges", there's no going back, so you can approach the next girl from ground zero, with no baggage from the previous girl. Although my style is not needy like Julien when I kill off an interaction, I still follow the principle of killing off leads which are going nowhere. Mainly because I hate wasting time with one girl if it's taking too long and also because I hate missing out on opportunities elsewhere just because I'm hung up on one girl who has put me in the "maybe" stage. The worst place you can be with a girl is in the "maybe" stage. She won't fuck you, but she still leads you on because she likes the attention. Also, very occasionally your killing of the interaction peaks her interest again because it gives her an emotional spike of feeling out of it.
Either way, if I haven't fucked a girl by the end of a 2nd date, I generally stop calling and texting her. I open new girls in the mean time, then if she still chases me, I decide whether she's worth it or not. This makes you more scarce (mysterious), show that you have an abundance of options (pre selection) and shows you don't tolerate frumpy behaviour (masculinity/leadership).
The guys who are calling Julien a rapist loser clearly don't get it. If he was actually squeezing hard on girls' throats all over the world, don't you think at least ONE girl would have reported him and had him arrested by now? He places his hand on her throat, he doesn't actually squeeze it. It's just a pre-cursor to Dom-Sub sex. It's the same reason why women fucking love 50 Shades of Grey. Can't fully defend pushing girls' heads into his crotch, but it's just a more crass example of dominant behaviour. If a rockstar did this to a fan, she would rip his trousers off and suck his dick like a vacuum.
I'm not saying I advocate what Julien does and I certainly wouldn't do it myself until I got to know the girl better, but you need to understand the slightly sarcastic but very confident cocky masculine vibe Julien projects to women. You are in no place to criticise Julien if you know nothing about the Dom-Sub / fetish culture.
I have a bigger problem with Julien's racism more than anything else.