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You are one weird dude I must say...You dis-respected vic even though he maintained his cool while talking to you..I woulden't.
You talk like a retard and I gave you -3.5 vote 'cause of that.
I hope you'll understand what's wrong with your mentality.Soon.
Thank you for your respect CaliForniCatioN.
You know the disappointing part and what actually does sadden me is that he never actually learned anything I was attempting to teach him. He lectured me and what not, even talked condescendingly to me, yet after it all nothing was learned. I tried to teach him by explaining, examples, definitions, articles (not my article), and even illustrating the behavior, couldn't quite teach him.
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You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.
At the end I pointed out how he needed to be right and how it had nothing to do with the conversation. He wasn't thinking he could possibly ever be wrong, how is this a good mindset to have in a discussion? His need for attention by 3 straight posts to get my attention illustrates a lot of the I attitude I've been referring to. Any time a girl texts 3 times straight we all know it shows insecurities, a lack of self-confidence, and neediness (a need for attention), funny that he didn't understand his own "needy" behavior based on my description and thoughts of the (spiritual) ego that I was describing in this very thread.
Tried to show him his own behavior at the end of our conversation, I was attempting to point out the conceptual (spiritual) ego. How when you are sitting there using all these "I" statements and qualifying for everyone around it really looks bad, you are constantly trying to look good for everyone else rather than feel good for who you are and what you have accomplished. "I have this", "I am that", "I've done this", and "I've done that" talk reflects poorly on people, showed him how stupid it looks, he even made fun of my qualifying behaviors (prom queen?) and even worse attempted to "one-up" me rather than realize I was showing how the (spiritual) ego works and looks. He actually completely and utterly missed the point, I feel I looked ridiculously stupid writing up all that stupid shit. LOL- Look at it, looks horrible.
Rather than just valuing yourself, you value others perception of yourself, hardly a way to build actual SELF-confidence. Self-Confidence means you go up to a set of girls get and get rejected and it doesn't effect your frame or how you feel about yourself. Where as when you don't actually have "self"-confidence but "situational" confidence it is easily swayed by outside influences such as rejection, people's opinion of yourself is more important than your own opinion of yourself. Your belief in yourself (he would refer to this as the subconscious) is more essential than how you "think"(the conscious).
Hopefully with this message to you he understands what I'm saying, how poorly the behavior looks, and how you caring about what people think of you more than your opinion of yourself is very unhealthy for your SELF-confidence. I unfortunately doubt that he will understand it even after this lengthy explanation of my last couple of actions -I made myself look REALLY bad to show him how bad this behavior looks- in a last inch effort to teach him a lesson on how it doesn't represent "high-value" when you talk about your "high-value", in fact it shows low value with its qualifying intentions.
It has been an interesting conversation, I've never covered the same points in so many different ways and not got my point across. I am honestly more upset that I couldn't teach him and help him than his disrespect toward me, his respect for me means nothing to me, honestly do you care to gain the respect of this guy? Why would you want it? How could you want it?
Peace and Love,
Vic
, its how you think of yourself. Confidence comes from how you think of yourself. Confidence comes from your ego.
Your ego is the most valuable thing you have since the state of your ego determines your confidence. Without confidence you can't stand up for yourself, you can't think for yourself, you avoid challenges, you don't work hard, you can't handle stress, you give up easily. Without an ego you are nothing.
I need to be right. You are right I need to be right. Not because I need your approval, but because this is a very important topic. You go around killing people's egos and that needs to stop because that ruins lives. You are ruining lives.
I never said let your Self-image be defined or limited by what other people think of you. It's your self-image. Its what YOU think of yourself. All I am saying is people should be mindful of how others and things other than your conscious mind AFFECT your self-image. If you can't admit you are influenced by the opinions of other people and your experiences then you are
arrogant and blind. This is actualy a very humble point here.
There is the subconscious and the conscious mind. What you must understand is that all these things people say and your experiences form beliefs in your subconscious that drive your behavior.
Independent Confidence. That's really what you are talking about, but (1) thats not always practical and (2) its not necessary to be successful to be happy. In fact, many people that seem independent just had families and friends that instilled beliefs in them that created a strong self-image and now they are really indepedendent. Nevertheless, these people may never have learned how to encourage themselves. This is the case with many beautiful women. The get compliments all the time so they are confident. However, because they get compliments all the time they are not used to encouraging themselves and therefore thinking for themselves.
Insecurity, Fear, Self-consciousness are just emotions. They are not good or bad. Everyone gets insecure....just like you, I made you prove yourself to me. I got under your skin. In the final analysis, its not how you feel its what you do. In fact, social insecurity and self-consciousness are reasonable emotions. THey just signal that you should care what people think about you...when you don't care what people think of you you get disliked. Being disliked can be a very tangible problem.
I will never change my mind. Never. I have authority on this subject. I know what I am talking about.
CHAT
